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Scared Daughter, dad showing signs of cancer, how to cope?

Maddoglady1
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Hi,

   I'm not sure if I'm in the right place but I thought I would reach out. My father has recently become quite unwell - without going into too much detail he has shown several signs of bowel cancer and the doctors have decided it would be unfair to investigate this which I agree with (lots of co-morbidities etc). His blood test results have come back with raised PSA of 10.8 - again, not going to be looked into.

I wondered if anyone can give me advice on how on earth I deal with this? I really don't know how to process it because we just don't know what is wrong. My father lives in a nursing home and so visiting him has been difficult given recent events in the world.

I'm sorry if I'm asking in the wrong place. I just don't know where to turn anymore, my family look to me because I am medical (not a doctor!!) and I don't know what to tell them anymore. He looks so pale and unwell. I'm really not ready to lose my dad.

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    Hi there,

    My Dad has received a cancer diagnosis today. I can understand some of what you're going through as the waiting for the diagnosis has been hell. I feel surprisingly relieved now we have it as we know what we are dealing with.

    Anyway I am sorry to hear what you are going through, my family rely on me too as I am the eldest. It might help to speak to his dr if possible as I think you need and deserve some answers, so that you know what you are dealing with. It might help for you to speak with your GP or  contact a helpline such as Macmillan or Marie Curie (not sure if Cancer Research have one?) to get some support.
    I hope you get some answers soon ️

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    Hi, thank you so much for your reply. I'm sorry to hear about your dad too. It's a horrible process isn't it. Unfortunately I don't think we will get any answers. I've had long chat with his GP and completely agree that the processes he would have to go through for diagnosis are not appropriate and may well have devastating results. I will have a look at helplines though, that is a great idea. Thank you

  • Offline in reply to Maddoglady1

    You're very welcome. I think it will be important for you to have some support for yourself, especially as you are the support for others. Take care of yourself ️

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