Hello Mechy,

It's good to keep your loved ones in the loop, but also understanding that it is standard procedure to go through tests like this to make sure there isn't anything serious. The decision is yours. Either way, there is information here on the mammogram test, which I hope will make you feel more prepared.

Best wishes,

Moderator Anastasia

Difficult decision. They may detect that you have something on your mind when seeing them, or even talking to them on the phone. In which case it may be better to just tell them. Parents can also give you support. You are trying not too worry, which is great, but waiting for mammograms and results is stressful. No getting around that. It is good if you have at least one other person to confide in. 

Here's hoping the lumps are benign, Mechy, as they often are. And that you can put this stress behind you. xx Harry

Thank you Harry. I decided to tell my Mum yesterday and I'm glad I did. I managed to get some more information on the medical history of a couple of relatives that were diagnosed whilst I was a child and therefore not aware of the specifics.

It's also good to not have to lie or keep it secret and have som support if I need it.

That’s a hard call to make.

I told mine “it’s probably nothing but I have an endoscopy booked to discover what’s causing the symptoms I told you about last week.” That way I was ready to share the news whether it was good or bad and they’d have an insight into why I seemed stressed out. 

Good luck!

Dave

I told my sister and a close friend but we decided not to tell my elderly mum just yet, she does know I had a mammogram but she thinks it was just a 3 year screening so I let her believe that for now.  I just don't want to worry an 85 year old if there isn't a problem, she is a dreadful worrier.

It is so difficult,and we always seem to think of other people .I was diagnosed with breast cancer in July of last year ,my son was getting married in August . My husband and two very close friends knew . I told both my children after my son’s honeymoon as I didn’t want them worrying . They were great and supportive and once they knew I was open with everyone. My friends were really supportive. I hope that’s helped you and hopefully everything will be fine . Best wishes R

Thinking about your elderly mother ,I have a very close relative who will be 92 soon, I didn’t tell her til after my op as I knew she would worry too much.

I won't tell her, although she is 85, she is incredibly spritely and switched on but nonetheless I don't want her to worry unnecessarily.  I always joke that she has a busier social life now than I had in my 20s, she is rarely at home.