Worried about my son

Hi, 

 

So 2 weeks ago, I saw on facetime, a lump on my sons neck. He's 3 years old and has been really tired the last 2 or 3 months and had started to get dark bags under his eyes as well as not eating as much as he'd normally eat. I called the doc straight away and was told to wait up to 2 weeks in case he came out in a viral infection. 4 days later, his neck was really blue and the lump was still there (the beginning of the year he had an episode where his lips went blue and had to have an ECG but was fine at the time). So I called the docs again and was told to come in. As soon as the doctor saw the size of it she said she was very concerned, as it is a bit bigger than a golf ball. She checked him over and asked me about any history of childhood cancers - which completely freaked me out. I also found later that evening, a video from July, where the lump was actually viable since then! So he was sent for a blood test the next day and has also requested an ultrasound of his neck. Got the blood results back today from the receptionist saying they were fine. So I guess now it's just waiting for the ultrasound! My partner has hugged me and said well at least it's not what we thought it couldve been... But I said, you can't just tell by bloods! And now I don't know if I'm worrying over nothing or if I should still be just as concerned until the ultrasound? He's just not himself at all and keeps saying he doesn't feel good but can't tell me what it is that's making him not feel good and tired but not giving in to napping. Just keep getting so upset about it all, as I'm 6 months pregnant and had a stressful few months as it is. Just want to be told my little boy is alright! Xx

  • Hi Emma,

    A very warm welcome to the forum that nobody really wants to join. I am so sorry to hear about your son's symptoms. My heart goes out to you. This is a position that no mother wants to be in, but especially in your current condition.

    I am so glad to hear that you contacted the GP again and that he has been referred for an ultrasound. Have you got a date for his ultrasound yet? If not, I hope that you won't have too long to wait.

    This is always a worrying time and nothing I can say will help to ease your mind. Only further tests can determine the cause.

    Please keep in touch. We are always here for you. 

    I am keeping everything crossed for good news.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Hiya, 

    No I haven't had a date come through as of yet, which is making my mind go into overdrive even more so as I don't know how long it's going to take.

    All everyone keeps saying is oh don't be silly and don't worry so much and you shouldn't think so negatively - but at the end of the day, he's literally having tests to rule out, everyones worst nightmare!

    So thank you for that, as you're the first person to actually make me feel some kind of reassurance by not just shutting down and ignoring that it's such a scary time. That means a lot x

    Will update when I find out anything! 

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    Hi Emma,

    I would imagine that if your GP is thinking along these lines with someone as young as your son, that it shouldn't be long before he gets the ultrasound.

    The way you are feeling is only natural. As a mum, I would certainly feel like you until you get the all clear. If it is of any of consolation to you, most of us tend to think the worst as soon as there is a possibility of getting a cancer diagnosis. Fortunately, this seldom happens. It is hard not to be negative when you are facing so many uncertainties.

    Regardless of the outcome. you will feel better once you know what you are dealing with. Sitting right in the middle of the unknown with your baby boy is not a pleasant place to be. It is an extremely scary time, but I do hope that there is a simpler explanation once you get the results of his ultrasound. It is only natural for everyone to try and reassure you that all will be fine, but it's hard to accept this until you know for certain.

    I am here for you any time you want to talk and, I am still hoping for a simpler explanation in the long term.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx