Hello again

hope you’re ok. Can I ask what your husband ‘s attitude to all this? Is he concerned about it too?

best ben

Hi there,

Thank you.

He is concerned but he has ended up having to look after baby and me, which makes me feel horrid.

Hi - hope you manage to get some sleep tonight. Sending you good wishes, hugs and hopes that tomorrow will be an easier day for you. Take care xx

Thank you so much xx

Hi Deedee,

sorry to hear you've been upset and stressed about this. How did you find out that your old boiler contained asbestos? Are you sure it definitely was? 
 

May I ask how old your baby is? The only reason I ask is because I had a baby myself 14 months ago and went through a very similar thing to you. About two years ago I accidentally drilled through a board that contained some asbestos, I didn't think anything of it at the time and it really didn't bother me. But then when my baby arrived it came back to mind and I completely catasrophised what I had done. I managed to convince myself that I was going to die young as a result leave my wife and baby on there own. 
 

I am okay now, and looking back I can see how it was all related to anxiety about becoming a parent for the first time and nothing to do with the asbestos at all. I did lots of research online looking at medical journals and HSE website, the more you look at the more you realise that single small exposures are extremely low risk! The reason there is so much health and safety about it is to stop people doing it day in day out over a 20 year career. 

everyone is exposed to asbestos throughout their life. There's around 10-100 fibres per meter cubed of air in our general environment, so we're breathing it everyday anyway and very few people become ill. 
 

I ended up going to see my GP, and he told me that it would be unheard of for anyone to get ill from such a small exposure and he gave me some tablets for anxiety instead. I found it naturally gets easier as my child gets older though. 
 

As others have said, please try to put this to the back of your mind and move on, the worry will do much worse to your health than the asbestos.

wishing you the best X 

Thank you for your reply. Appreciate it.

Having another really bad day today with this.

Found out as we were looking at past pictures and asked few different experts who said all same thing including it was the really bad kind. was recalling a few things builder did then which what I know now, definitely shows it was. My baby is same age as yours.

It's definitely scared me and  created me with  these horrible feelings. I just can't see how anyone can help me feel differently when the events have actually happened. It's hard for me to move on from it.

Hi - hope your day picked up a bit and not horrible right through. I had a tough day - really busy and then some difficult news arrived. (Am going to try and walk it out of my system this evening). 

I don't think the pictures change any of the advice you've been given by myself and others.

I do understand it is hard to move on but that doesn't mean you won't manage to do it. Wishing you well. Thinking of you Take care and try and enjoy some of the weekend. xx

Sorry for late reply. I've been feeling awful, called for some help, but can't see it helping as it's happened.  I'm scared my baby was exposed via my clothing as I still wore them (as didn't know) and also by bringing stuff up and down loft. All the fibres could have been everywhere. I'm struggling to deal with my baby has been endangered as well as my husband and myself since it's happened. I'm so scared

No need to apologise. Sorry you've been feeling so awful. I hope you've contacted your GP if you are still not functioning. I totally understand how scared you feel now. But a lot of children years ago were exposed to far more on their parents clothes every single day for many years. And the statistics for asbestos issues are still very low. When people start to catastrophe as you are doing now, fixating on a worst-case scenario, it can mean they have anxiety bad enough to need treatment. Sometimes it is more than talking therapy that is needed. Anxiety is a real medical condition not just a word for worrying. I am not trying to diagnose you as I am not a doctor and also I don't know the full picture of what is going on right now. But I do know that you have had these horrible feelings of nausea, plus trouble eating and sleeping for a significant period of time this week. So it is enough that I feel you should speak to your GP so that they know how much of an impact this asbestos issue is having on you and how it seems to have completely taken over and stopped you from day-to-day living. A GP is far better placed than anyone else to understand why you are feeling so terrible and could also explain the asbestos risk far better than I can. There is no need to post on here what help you have sought. That is private for you. Just know that there are people on this forum who care and want you to be able to feel better and enjoy life again. Take care. Love and hugs xx

Hi Deedee. 

Have you thought about the possibility of none of the pipes having asbestos on them any thing was used to insulate pipes in the old days including strips of sacking which go darker with age and heat but are harmless to health. 

I think only way you can be sure is to get things checked out, 

Best wishes. 

Billy