Thank you. I've shared your blog with him. X

im going to make him up a treatment/recovery hamper, have you any Suggestions what I could include? He's in denial about how unwell he may feel. He's due to have 1 day chemo, 5 days radio per week. And feeding tube fitted at 3wks into the treatment x

Hi Ray. Don't think about the recovery phase just yet. It's best ti take everything)ng in small bite sizes. It's unusual l if anyone gets off Scott free , by week 3 inwas Nil  by mouth even plain tap water taste slime sewer water plus I couldn't swallow it. For hospital days with chemo maybe make sure he had a long cable for ohine or tablet as plugs are always out of reach. Any magazine s or books crossword puzzle tyoe books. I lost interest in reading for a good whike but in early days needed distractions. We watched box sets simple stuff. 
Boxes of tissues as once treatment starts there's lots of spitting to be done.

i boughta humidifier from Amazon for nighttime appx £25 mine was a cool mist I really it helps.  Because treatment is to our mouths and throats t( usual stuff that people take for I'll people aren't any use  food and drink for a good while is very hard  it becomes a matter if food is fuel . If you could  arrange a rota for people to take him to hospital would be a good idea  plus company at home short visits usually the first week eating and drinking is ok ish then by weeks 3-4 gets harder or impossible  

A note  book  for any questions and a pen are very useful  Make sure he takes medication as directed  

there's no prizes for being brave pain s real  

hooe this helps Hazel 

Hi don't even thjnk sbout it 84% of the world at any one point are h p v positive. Majority geg rid of it naturally a tiny snd I mean ti y go on like me ti get h p v oral cancer 40 plus years later. . So don't think about it  Hazel x

Thank you Hazel, feel so down about it like life is just over and I'm just existing. Not in a dangerous way I hasten to add just go back to work, home and repeat and keep smiling mode and break it up with him before it gets serious. 
  
I'd be so worried I'll end up with a call from him that he has woken up with a sore or something I just can't bare it :-(

Hi chat with your g p hpv does not cause rashes unlike some sexual transmitted illnesses please don't let  it ruin yiur life. 
i had no idea I had h p v lived very happily and my hubby if 40 years never caught it or not that we know we had regular sex and still do. 
lHazel x

Thank you for your kind words of support Hazel. It's so hard to get a GP appointment at the moment but I will try again, so much appreciated.
Just stuck between a rock and a hard place at the moment . Can't bare to tell him and couldn't bare to not and have sex, I'm running out of excuses to him  
Will read through this site some more too. 

Just stumbled across this blog and it's the first realistic information I've come across. I'm 59, always had regular smears, been exclusively with the same partner for 38 years, so a positive HPV test blew my mind. The "sexually transmitted" element has absolutely battered my trust in my husband and whatever he says that just won't go away. Like others I've been told to go back in 12 months but the worry and suspicion remains. Thanks everyone for sharing, I wish I'd found this sooner, at least I know I'm not alone with the worry and confusion.

Hi, I'm new to the forum but just wanted to say 'trust your husband'. I'm 56 and I've had regular smears throughout my life. I know I picked up the HPV virus 38 years ago well before I met my husband.

I had genital warts when I was about 18 but I was told that some of the more sinister HPV variants can piggy back the less troublesome ones. However no one tested for HPV back the. Fast forward to now and I recently had my first HPV test and yes it came back positive but no abnormal cells. A bit of a shock but it clearly hasn't left me in all that time, probably as I've read it can lay dormant and come back again many years later.  

I've been marred for over 30 years. This is something I picked up well before I met my husband and the likelihood us you will have too.

I hope this may give you some peace of mind and restore your trust in him x

Thank you ️