Hi Rebecca,

I have literally just been what you have been through with your mum (I'm 24 she's 45). Went to the breast clinic with her after lymph nodes being up and pain in shoulder/underarm. However, after biopsies etc in the breast clinic, we were called in saying there know it's breast cancer. So we got told before the results of the biopsies, so it is quite reassuring they can't say straight away? 
 If it has not spread to the nodes your mum will have a very high chance of getting through this (stage 1 is 99% survival rate) out the other side. You will know more with the results and please do not worry, what ever the outcome it will be very treatable! Waiting if definitely the worst part. Please keep it contact as it's good to have someone similar she going through the same x

Hi jmne245,

We got the results on wednesday and unfortunatley she has stage 1 breast cancer, they said its very curable, they offered her a mastecomy or lumpectomy with radiotherapy and 5 years of tablets to prevent the cancer returning. She has decided to have the lumpectomy as the doctor said both mastectomy and lumpectomy with radiotherapy, have the same chance of cure, the chance of recurrence is a tiny bit higher with lumpectomy but only 0.5%, and she will be having the tablets for 5 years after and regular mammograms each year she will be ok. To be honest I feel better now knowing exactly what we are dealing with and that it can be cured, I think it was the not knowing that was affecting me the most as we had no idea what was going on. A part of me was really hoping it would be benign but I knew deep down it was cancer from what the doctor was saying and then getting the results, there was 2 doctors and a macmillan nurse who walked in, as soon as I saw the macmillan nurse walk in, I knew it was cancer. But I am so thankful we have found it now rather than later and we are able to cure it. 

Thankyou so much for your comment and reassurance, you are so kind. It is good to know we are not alone. You can contact me anytime if you like, Im not sure if we are allowed to share contact details such as social media etc on here, but it would be good to keep in touch and have someone who understands what eachother is going through. I really hope you and your mum are ok and the cancer is curable. It is so hard to go through and a rollercoaster of emotions, but I am sure we will both get through this and most of all our mothers. They are so strong.

Lots of love and light,

Rebecca xx

Hi Rebecca 

what a lovely daughter you are your Mum is so lucky 

I was in a similar position as your Mum 3 years ago it's all very scary and a bumpy ride 

I was stage 1 but had a lot of dcis so opted for the mastectomy and reconstruction straight away 

no other treatment except some bone strengthening infusions every 6 months 

no side effects from these however I had to go the cancer treatment hospital 

seeing so many poorly people really brings it home 

I can honestly say I have been well the whole time 

I was super careful not to get any wound infections 

using antiseptic soap and regularly changing bedding and the soft sports bras which I was wearing 

I had a V pillow which helped be be comfy in bed and used a neck pillow under my new breast while sleeping 

I found it hard to find the right bras when I was ready to go back to proper underwear but I'm ok now after a bit of trial and error

my new boob is fine when I'm dressed but smaller than the other one I use a prosthetic balance to even myself up 

it's all good I can wear a bikini !

I'm happy and enjoy life I try not to dwell on it 

I'm lucky it was picked up on a routine mammogram 

No symptoms at all 

the annual mammogram is a stressful time and I do get myself in a ''tis but I'm afraid it goes with the tertiary 

I hope all goes well for your Mum 

j x

Hi Rebecca,

I'm sorry to hear that your mum has breast cancer, but I am so pleased that it is stage 1 and curable! Well done for her being her own advocate when she knew something deep down wasn't right.

once a treatment plan is determined you will feel at lot more at ease. You will both get through this, and always here if you need a chat. 
unfortunately for my mum, she has an aggressive type and by the time she was diagnosed with scans etc it has already spread to her bones and liver, so stage 4 and incurable. Please be assured you don't have to worry about this with your mum as it is only stage 1 and hasn't spread to lymph nodes x 

she is still having the treatment but it's awful knowing she will never get better.. however I still have to keep positive! 
spend lots of time with your mum and before you know it she will be out the other side and I think it does bring a family together when something like this happens

xx