New to Cancer chat 'scared'

Hello

I am new to this forum. I have been reading the posts and found I feel somehow no longer alone.  I have not been diagnosed with cancer. I will be undergoing tests in due course. In the meantime, I am living in fear and finding the fear debilitating. I hope I can be part of the chat in this context as I don't know where to get further support having been to the GP and tried to explain to some close friends who find it hard to understand the level and all encompassing fear I feel. I am frigthened of any diagnosis and the tests which is compounding my fear,  I hope my first post is okay and in the right place.

Thank you for reading and any support would be gratefully received

Polly

  • Hi Minska

    It is nice to meet you. I am finding the chat really helpful as you say I don't feel so alone.  It is nice to be retired at a young age. I am sure you find many nice things to occupy yourself with.  I wonder if you like animals, dogs in particular? 

    Thank you for sharing your experience of anxiety. It can be an awful thing in itself as you will know. 

    Polly xx 

  • Hi Marlyn

    Hope your day is going well. 

    I have downloaded the 'calm app'. It has given me a seven day free trial. I will use it tonight and let you know how I get on. 

    Polly xx

  • Picture is of Mac (my Westie)

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  • Hi polly well done I like mac good one, you've got it done a lot quicker than I did with Bella it took me weeks to get it right, mind you I'll blame Bella she kept moving so they were always blurd,, hope your better tonight with your download,, best wishes.... Billy xxx 

  • Mac looks blimmin gorgeous, just ripe for a snog from his aunt Marlyn!!

     

    yes, let me know how you get on with the app, loads of lovely calming music too, and mindful yoga stuff....talking to you about dealing with a negative outlook....I love it...I hope you will too xxx

  • Hi Polly

    I shouldn’t really be retired...but I left a job when they wouldn’t give me a month off to go to Australia, then my mum passed away and then I got ill. So all in all circumstances kind of stopped me looking for anything else. I’m a cat lover! We have four at the moment, but can’t turn a stray away. They are such a comfort to me. My little black cat Lily lies on my chest and touches noses...I just love her. Your little Westie is adorable! 

    I’m more than happy not to be working now and being at home...I always find plenty to do. My anxiety used to be terrible, to the point I couldn’t go out, but I’m much better now. I can sympathise with you so much...it’s an awful thing to suffer from. I hope you find the calm app useful. I use a free one called Headspace which is also helpful. 

    Anyway, look forward to chatting more. Take care. xx

  • Hi polly rise and shine have a good breakfast, then get talking let off steam take dogs for a good walk, we've a bit of drizzle here just now, i don't mind it's a bit cooler when i go shopping see what bargains are about,, think positive you are going to do it (whatever it is). Love... Billy xxx XXX 

  • Hi Billy

    It has been pouring down most of the day here. I have been out a couple of times with the dogs. I had to meet with my boss this morning to discuss my return to work. I broke my wrist six or seven weeks ago which meant I couldn't work. I have explained what has happened in between and it was agreed it would be helpful for me to return to work on reduced hours. I am not sure how I will manage, given my anxiety, panic attacks and the rest of the stuff going on. I have to pay my bills so I will have to see how I get on.  

    I managed some breakfast -a weetabix!!

    I treid the calm app but I didn't like the music and the voice. I am going to try another one. No sleep again and feeling drained today. 

    Hope you got your shopping done and found some bargains. I must admit I like rummaging around charity shops but when it comes to food I struggle to use the cheaper brands. I'm not a snob, its like beans other than Heinzes I don't like the taste.  

    Going to have a cuppa now before I have to take the dogs out again. 

    Trying to stay positive -thank you

    Love Pol xxxxx

  • Hi MinskaI 

    I like cats but I was scared by one when I was younger (how memories saty with us). It jumped at me and I panicked. I like other people's cats though. There is one in my nieghbourhood that is always asleep in a plant pot. I find it rather endearing. It sound so sweet you and Lily 'touching noses'. I think animals help with anxiety.  Thank you for saying Mac is adorable...he is but he is rather grumpy now. he is fifteen, but he is looking well. 

    It is good to hear you are managing your anxiety. I havem and continbue to ry anything. I downloaded the calm app recommened by Marly, which was good, but I didn't like the voice of the guy talking.  I don't get a good signal either so it can take ages to get something to play. 

    Hope your day has been okay.

    Polly xx

  • Hi Marlyn

    I hoep you have had a good day so far. I downloaded the app, and found it good, but I didn't like the sound of the guy's voice reading the story.  I am not sure if I downloaded the right one so I am going to try again.  

    Mac would welcome a kiss and a scratch as long as he's in the mood, he is the boss in the house. 

    I met with my boss earlier, as I am due to go back to work in a couple of weeks. I broke my wrsit about seven weeks ago, and in between my symptoms escalated. I have explained all to my boss and we agreed it might help for me to do a phaesd return, quite flexible. I am not sure how I will manage as it is a demanding job. I suppose what I am learning from everyone here is to not give up and give myself a chance.

    It is worrying though becasue I can't control my tummy so it could be embarrasing, but if I don't go back the bills won't get paid! 

    Anyway, what have you been up to? I am trying to stay positive (honestly).

    Pol xx