Breast Clinic - fearing the worst

Hi All

I am new to these forums.   I recently found a hard lump on my left breast and a swollen node under my arm.  My GP referred me to the breast clinic and today I had a mammogram, ultrasound and core biopsy.   The mammogram was unclear but the ultrasound showed some cysts that were covering a lump which doesn’t have defined edges.   They said there is thickening around the nipple and it’s suspicious.   I have to wait two weeks.  The Dr said they will discuss as a team next moves and then contact me with another appointment.   I am swinging from feeling positive and then hopeless.   I have a history of anaemia and b12 deficiency so am worried physically I will struggle with treatment.   It just feels so overwhelming.  My Husband and kids have been amazing but I hate what the worry is doing to them.  I have a really stressful job and wonder how I’ll cope if it’s confirmed as bad news.   Anyway it’s good to vent and I hope to chat to some of you more.

  • Hi

    Diagnosis day is 7th August.   At least now I have a date to head towards.  Xx

  • I'm glad that you have a date but it is still an awful long time to live with uncertainty.  I have felt very low today after googling the type of calcification that was brought up on the mammogram and now I am in a heap again.  My husband is losing his patience with me and says that I am worrying over nothing, he just does not get it.  Thank goodness I can talk to you who knows how harrowing this all is.  I dont suffer from anaemia or b12 defficiency, but today all the stress has made me feel so exhausted and it must be even worse for your.  Try to keep your chin up, wish I could take my own advice! and wishing you all the best.  Do keep in touch, sharing is a comfort. xxx

  • I agree it seems so long to wait.  My mind too has been on overdrive and I find myself reading and searching for information and hoping that it hasn’t spread.   I keep thinking when I know ithe diagnosis it will be better but I also know it will then become real and more scary.   Your husband will be scared too but probably trying to reassure you by saying you are worrying over nothing.   It’s so very hard to know how best to cope but we can only do one day are a time.  We kept busy today and were out and about all day and I found this helped.   Being among people shopping etc makes me feel normal.   Tonight when we were home I went into overdrive and I wonder if I have the physical strength to deal with treatment.   No tears today though so that is progres.   We are one more day further on in the waiting game and I still think we can do this whatever comes our way.   Keep smiling and of course I will keep checking in and am here if you need to talk.   Xxx

  • Mrs G, after falling asleep for an hour or so this afternoon, we went to our allotment about 3.30  when the sun had gone in.  The allotment is surrounded by National Trust land and the area is very beautiful.  The physical work and the connection with nature helped.  I prefer that to being with people in this situation because I don't feel 'normal' anymore.  I have not had any tears yet, I probably have the physical strenght to deal with this but my mental strength is weak. I won't go in to it but I have lost several beloved ones in the last 4 years before their time and tonight I was thinking of the unfairness for them.  Anyway, enough of my melancholy, we will do this, because we have to.  Sleep tight and wishing you a calm day tomorrow. xxxx

  • Hi Lyn, your allotment sounds like it’s a perfect getaway.   It rained all day here today otherwise we would have gardened which I love.  We did buy a lovely olive tree which is being delivered tomorrow.  Simple things keep us happy.   I am sorry to hear about your losses.  You will find your mental strength if you need to.  There are too many what iifs at the moment.  It will come.  Speak soon x

  • Sorry to hear of your wait girls. 

    I too am in the waiting game. 42 years old. 

    4 weeks ago had mammogram then got an appointment two weeks later for breast clinic. I then received a magnified mammogram which showed 1cm area of calcium. 

    Two weeks later meant to get a stereotactic vacuum biopsy but the suction wasn’t working so just had to get core biopsy. Which was last Friday 19th of July. 

    My results are now in but getting discussed at multi disciplinary meeting on Wednesday 31st. 

    But that the day we go on holiday for 10 nights and secretary says consultant will only do face to face results so don’t know if this means anything and she said will just make sure the appointment is made for my return. 

    Trying to stay positive but not easy. 

    I too have got low vitamin d so on 3 capsules a day and on folic acid too. 

    Also suffering from bone pain and awaiting rheumatology appointment. Just worries this all connected and spreading.

    i suppose what will be. 

    Good luck with your appointments girls. 

    Xx

  • Hi Hunter

    good to hear from you but  sorry you too are going through this awful wait.   The not knowing what you are dealing with is the hardest part.

     I found my lump 2 days before I went on holiday for a week abroad but knew about the waiting game with appointments so made the desicion to go on holiday and deal with it all on my return.  1st day back I was into see my GP and the journey started.   Your team sound very on the ball and it’s good you’ll have your appointment when you get back.  Isn’t it Sod’s law that these things happen at big times.  Both Christmas and I have had the same problem.  You feel your life is on hold and no longer fully your own.

    i cycle between being positive and totally overwhelmed fearing it has spread but am trying to remind myself I’m in good hands and have a great support network whatever comes my way.   I will know more on 7th August!   

    Im keeping everything crossed for you.   Do keep chatting with us as it really does help. Xxx  

  • Mrs G, yes being outside with nature helps my mind.  You are so lucky to have the rain, watering everything in this heat is a chore. We live by the sea, and today I briefly sat on the beach after doing some shopping, eating a sandwich, anxiety really surpresses my appetite, but I was getting on with my prawn sandwich. Then from behind me a seagull swooped down and stole it from my hand.  Despite my low mood, it gave me a laugh. xxx 

  • Hunter, you are not alone. On Wednesday I was told that I had suspicious calcification in my left breast.  Next Wednesday, I go back to the hospital for needle biopsy. After all  the tests two areas of calcification, one area benign but the other suspicious looking, hence the needle biopsy.  A stereotactic vacuum biopsy was not mentioned, do you know what this procedure is?    I too ,have a lovely holiday booked mid September with our son, who we dont see very often, he lives far away from us, and me, being me, I am overthinking  everything.  Fingers crossed for all of us going through this, please keep in touch.  xxx

  • Ooh you are lucky living near the seaside.  I grew up in a seaside town and loved it.   I laughed at the seagull pinching your  sandwich.   They are so bold these days.   I’ve had a quiet day today.  Am building up for work tomorrow and hoping I don’t get upset xx