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Worriedfifer
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Hi All,

I found a lump in my left breast and went to doctor. She said she was ' really sorry ' which scared me then referred me to the hospital. I went on thursday and had a mammogram then an ultrasound. The consultant then showed me my scans and said I have a suspicious mass on my left breast and a suspicious mass on my lymph node and calcifications too. I had a biopsy on the lump, the lymph node and calcifications.  I get the results on Thursday morning. I can't handle the waiting etc and so I'm off work on the sick. From a few bits and pieces the nurses have been saying, it's obvious to me it's cancer... I'm petrified as I'm a single mum and only have my dad and his partner for support and they are elderly so trying not to involve them too much. The nurse said 'my ears will be ringing this week as they discuss my treatment at the MDT meeting'.. this confirmed it for me, i know it's going to be bad news on Thursday and I will be going alone for the results so I'm glad I found this site. Don't know what else to say, just all the best to everyone going through these difficult times. X

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    Oh love just seen this ( thank youminska for tagging me) 

    your in a whirlwind now, feeling out of control...I know...I've been there....firstly, have a chat to Macmillan ref finances, I'm sorry you have that added worry, hopefully Macmillan can advise and help.

    Believe me...once your on the treatment plan you will feel more settled, they really will look after you, whilst chemo is no walk in the park it is doable....do you have someone who can see to your child ( children)? Especially on chemo day? 

    Its worth remembering we all react differently to chemo, I did manage to work throughout mine but my job isn't at all stressful or physically demanding..

     

    i know you feel like your world is collapsing right now but you will get it back..I promise....I started chemotherapy in Feb...finished in May and just now getting things back to normal...so yes...around 6 months of things being on hold so to speak...but the time goes by in a flash.....

    i  here if you need me love , I know your still in shock xxxx

     

     

     

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    Hi Worriedfifer,

    Like Marlyn, I have just found your post thanks to Minska.

    I am so sorry to hear of your diagnosis yesterday. This certainly is not the news that you wanted to hear. Having had 2 bouts of breast cancer 9 and 10 years ago, (I have had a lumpectomy and a double mastectomy), I have a fair idea of the agonies you are going through at the moment, especially when you are on your own with your young family. What ages are they?

    What the nurse said about the MDT meeting is nothing to worry about. All cases are discussed at an MDT meeting before the test results are given to the patient. The result of the MDT means that your consultant can then discuss the best way forward for you when s/he gives you your results.

    I hope that your bone and liver scans next week don’t show up anything further to worry about. It is always upsetting when you have to wait for the results of further tests. I had to do this too, but this is the best time to get the full picture and, to work out the best treatment for you.

    Marlyn has just finished her chemo and, I’m sure that if you have any questions about this, she will be able to aswer them. I haven’t had radiotherapy or chemotherapy, so am not much use when it comes to either of these.

    There are organisations that you can go to for support and advice. Centres such as Maggies. Chances are your breast care nurse can point you in the direction of others. I found them very helpful in my early days. You can also make an appointment for some nice alternative therapies at some of these centres and these are all free of charge. If you don’t fancy these, you will always be welcomed for a cuppa and a chat.

    There is usually a MacMillan Advice Centre in most hospitals. They should be able to help you to sort out your finances, as you may be entitled to additional benefits. Having a cancer diagnosis is bad enough without having financial worries as well. Breast Cancer Care also run courses where they talk about various aspects of breast cancer. These are usually run fairly local to you and can be very helpful.

    Do please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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