Thank goodness you had good news. I'm absolutely terrified. I can hardly cope, I don't know how I can make it to Thursday without a complete break down. I'm in the same situation you were in when you were waiting. I'm 47 mammogram and ultrasound looked suspicious so I had a punch biopsy (4 samples) I was basically told to expect bad news and sent away to wait.

i feel like my health has declined since then. I can barely eat it sleep, I've lost weight, short of breath etc. I was perfectly well when I went for my appointment on Thursday. The wait is torture. I have teenagers and I'm trying to act normal in front of them. My husband is being great but there's nothing he can say or do to help.

 Your message has given me a tiny bit of hope x

Hi Moll72

im so sorry to hear you're going through this horrible time. It's the most scared I had ever been, it was on my mind all the time and like you my anxiety made me a complete wreck. I would wake up in the night scared for my children, read every symptom again and again on different sites and really had resigned myself to having it. I truly believe you will be okay because as soon as you get your results you will have this awful torture over, the chances are you will be one of the many lucky ones like me but if it is the worst case scenario you will have a wonderful team of experts who can help you fight this horrible disease. My auntie has just been diagnosed and she said the waiting was the worst part now she knows she can look at how to fight it, she feels much more positive.

Nothing will take the worry away but not long to wait now, try and keep busy and I found it helpful to have someone to talk to about my fears, have you got someone who can help to reassure you?

wishing you all the luck for Thursday.

sarah

You are right weewitchie I should stop reading things. Ultimately it won't make any difference to the outcome and will either stress me out more or give me false hope in the meantime xx

Hi Moll,

This is the normal time scale for getting your results. Many other people have had the same worry as you, but all have been reassured by their consultants that this is unlikely to happen.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you Jolamine. I wish I'd had a fragment of reassurance from mine! Oh well... I'll plod on xx

There's probably no right or wrong way to cope with this situation.

Do what you feel helps the most and make sure you keep talking about how you're feeling and what you are worrying about as holding it all in isn't good for anyone !

Hope so much you get a good outcome x

Hi Emma,

I totally agree with all you have said.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you Jolamine

I only have a limited experience of all this, but I will help if I can as this site helped me.

Best wishes

Emma

Hi Moll72

How are you doing today, hope you are ok x

Hi there

i feel like crap to be honest . I called my hospital as I was feeling so wobbly. I've basically been told to expect a diagnosis on Thursday. She said the results on ultrasound and mammogram were both 4 (so cancer suspected). She did say it's very encouraging that the lymph nodes look ok. She explained what the possible treatments would be in what order, depending on the actual biopsy results which are still not back. She said that a lady who works with her carried on working through her entire treatment and was fine. (I wouldn't be able to do that because I work with children though)

the results are not actually in yet but she said in her opinion it will most likely be cancer. It's about 2.5cm. She said the benign conditions that mimic cancer on ultrasound etc are extremely rare. 
 

I don't know what to do with myself. I mentioned it to my daughter at the weekend (that it's a possibility) but I've not said anything to my son or my parents who've had so much on their plate already lately. I'm dreading it so much. Everyone we've ever know who've had cancer have died. They are all going to take it really hard 

i 

Hi Moll,

Sorry to hear that you're not feeling so good today. I was in the same position as you when I was first diagnosed. I had lost both parents, a lot of relatives and close friends to cancer and I consulted Dr Google, which was the worst possible thing I could have done. I convinced myself that I was on my way out too.

There is 10 years between my mother's passing and my first diagnosis. You hear how cancer treatments are improving all the time, but I really found evidence of this. There was just no comparison between the diagnosis, treatment and after care which my mum experienced and that which I had. Instead of dying with breast cancer, a number of people are now living with it.

It is always difficult to break the news to family and friends. The more positive you can be when telling them, the better they will take it. How did your daughter react? 

Waiting for results is always one of the hardest parts. Still, Thursday is gradually creeping up.

Don't forget to let us know how you get on.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Emma,

We all have to start somewhere and, we welcome anyone who can contribute to the forum. You may not feel that you have a lot to offer at the moment, but your experience can be invaluable to a 'newbie', who is at their wits end with worry.

I had great help from others on this forum when I was first diagnosed and this is why I try to help others who are so worried in their early days.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Emma,

We all have to start somewhere and, we welcome anyone who can contribute to the forum. You may not feel that you have a lot to offer at the moment, but your experience can be invaluable to a 'newbie', who is at their wits end with worry.

I had great help from others on this forum when I was first diagnosed and this is why I try to help others who are so worried in their early days.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx