Thank goodness you had good news. I'm absolutely terrified. I can hardly cope, I don't know how I can make it to Thursday without a complete break down. I'm in the same situation you were in when you were waiting. I'm 47 mammogram and ultrasound looked suspicious so I had a punch biopsy (4 samples) I was basically told to expect bad news and sent away to wait.

i feel like my health has declined since then. I can barely eat it sleep, I've lost weight, short of breath etc. I was perfectly well when I went for my appointment on Thursday. The wait is torture. I have teenagers and I'm trying to act normal in front of them. My husband is being great but there's nothing he can say or do to help.

 Your message has given me a tiny bit of hope x

Hi Moll72

im so sorry to hear you're going through this horrible time. It's the most scared I had ever been, it was on my mind all the time and like you my anxiety made me a complete wreck. I would wake up in the night scared for my children, read every symptom again and again on different sites and really had resigned myself to having it. I truly believe you will be okay because as soon as you get your results you will have this awful torture over, the chances are you will be one of the many lucky ones like me but if it is the worst case scenario you will have a wonderful team of experts who can help you fight this horrible disease. My auntie has just been diagnosed and she said the waiting was the worst part now she knows she can look at how to fight it, she feels much more positive.

Nothing will take the worry away but not long to wait now, try and keep busy and I found it helpful to have someone to talk to about my fears, have you got someone who can help to reassure you?

wishing you all the luck for Thursday.

sarah

Hi Moll,

Not that much longer to wait now, even though it'll probably feel like a lifetime!  We all seem to think that every ache and pain is due to cancer and, to think the worst at this stage, but this seldom turns out to be the case.

It is very reassuring that your lymph nodes appear to be clear. They never biopsy the underarm, as far as I know. It is only during surgery that they remove some lymph nodes and test them.  You get the results of these at the same time as you get your post-surgery pathology results. This is why the nurse didn't say anything.

It is not until your biopsy results come back that they will know anything for certain. I hope that you are bringing someone with you to your appointment. It canalso be helpful to write down a list of questions to bring with you.

I shall be thinking of you on Thursday.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Just back from a very long & muddy walk with my husband and the dog. My head feels a little clearer for now. 
thank you so much for taking the time to message me again. I can only hope that I get the same outcome as you. I know there's a big chance that I will not be as fortunate but at least it gives me a little hope. Funnily enough I was reading up on phyllodes tumors last night and also adenosis (or something like that) which also has a malignant appearance on ultrasound and mammogram. I wish the lady hadn't said, prepare yourself or words to that effect. I know they can't give false hope but I feel like I was given the complete opposite of that. 
I know what you mean, IF my results are good I will be overjoyed obviously but it will take some time to get over the anxiety it's causing me. I'm so drained and I look so different xx

Thank you Jolamine. Yes I'm holding on to the mention of the lymph nodes being clear. I hope she was right about that. Although I worry now that it can spread to my lymph nodes while I'm waiting (I'm a nightmare!!)

yes my husband will be coming with me thank goodness. Thank you for your words xx

I would try to stop reading things till you know what is happening, you are frightening yourself...

My partner would not discuss anything, he just said stop torturing yourself, which seemed harsh at the time but probably the right advice, looking back...

It is so worrying, but try to keep well by eating when you feel up to it.

I hope when you get back to work time will pass quicker and the distraction will help xx

You are right weewitchie I should stop reading things. Ultimately it won't make any difference to the outcome and will either stress me out more or give me false hope in the meantime xx

Hi Moll,

This is the normal time scale for getting your results. Many other people have had the same worry as you, but all have been reassured by their consultants that this is unlikely to happen.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you Jolamine. I wish I'd had a fragment of reassurance from mine! Oh well... I'll plod on xx

There's probably no right or wrong way to cope with this situation.

Do what you feel helps the most and make sure you keep talking about how you're feeling and what you are worrying about as holding it all in isn't good for anyone !

Hope so much you get a good outcome x

Hi Emma,

I totally agree with all you have said.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you Jolamine

I only have a limited experience of all this, but I will help if I can as this site helped me.

Best wishes

Emma

Thank you Jolamine

I only have a limited experience of all this, but I will help if I can as this site helped me.

Best wishes

Emma

Hi Emma,

We all have to start somewhere and, we welcome anyone who can contribute to the forum. You may not feel that you have a lot to offer at the moment, but your experience can be invaluable to a 'newbie', who is at their wits end with worry.

I had great help from others on this forum when I was first diagnosed and this is why I try to help others who are so worried in their early days.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx