You are right weewitchie I should stop reading things. Ultimately it won't make any difference to the outcome and will either stress me out more or give me false hope in the meantime xx

Thank you Jolamine. I wish I'd had a fragment of reassurance from mine! Oh well... I'll plod on xx

There's probably no right or wrong way to cope with this situation.

Do what you feel helps the most and make sure you keep talking about how you're feeling and what you are worrying about as holding it all in isn't good for anyone !

Hope so much you get a good outcome x

Hi 40yearold,

As well as having no node involvment, your cancer is only grade 2, so it should be quite treatable. I am sorry to hear about your troubles with Tamoxifen. I certainly found my emotions very difficult to deal with when I was taking it. My family also found it difficult too. Most of the hormone treatments have side-effects, but some are worse than others. Have a chat with your breast care nurse or consultant/oncologist if this continues for you.

Many people find it easier to talk to people on a forum who have experienced what you are going through, instead of family and friends who don't know what to say. We are certainly always here for you at any time.

You will find a new normal. Having cancer affects us all profoundly, but it also makes us stronger. Give yourself time to decide what you want to do.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Emma,

I totally agree with all you have said.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you Jolamine

I only have a limited experience of all this, but I will help if I can as this site helped me.

Best wishes

Emma

Hi Moll72

How are you doing today, hope you are ok x

Hi there

i feel like crap to be honest . I called my hospital as I was feeling so wobbly. I've basically been told to expect a diagnosis on Thursday. She said the results on ultrasound and mammogram were both 4 (so cancer suspected). She did say it's very encouraging that the lymph nodes look ok. She explained what the possible treatments would be in what order, depending on the actual biopsy results which are still not back. She said that a lady who works with her carried on working through her entire treatment and was fine. (I wouldn't be able to do that because I work with children though)

the results are not actually in yet but she said in her opinion it will most likely be cancer. It's about 2.5cm. She said the benign conditions that mimic cancer on ultrasound etc are extremely rare. 
 

I don't know what to do with myself. I mentioned it to my daughter at the weekend (that it's a possibility) but I've not said anything to my son or my parents who've had so much on their plate already lately. I'm dreading it so much. Everyone we've ever know who've had cancer have died. They are all going to take it really hard 

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Hi Moll,

Sorry to hear that you're not feeling so good today. I was in the same position as you when I was first diagnosed. I had lost both parents, a lot of relatives and close friends to cancer and I consulted Dr Google, which was the worst possible thing I could have done. I convinced myself that I was on my way out too.

There is 10 years between my mother's passing and my first diagnosis. You hear how cancer treatments are improving all the time, but I really found evidence of this. There was just no comparison between the diagnosis, treatment and after care which my mum experienced and that which I had. Instead of dying with breast cancer, a number of people are now living with it.

It is always difficult to break the news to family and friends. The more positive you can be when telling them, the better they will take it. How did your daughter react? 

Waiting for results is always one of the hardest parts. Still, Thursday is gradually creeping up.

Don't forget to let us know how you get on.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx