I have a lump and had an ultrasound. The NP suggested cancer Without a biopsy and the oncologist did as well without a biopsy. The Oncologist and I had words (Not nice ones). I've since decided not to get a biopsy, found an MD that agrees with me about not getting the biopsy and am using more wholistic methods. 

I have a lump and had an ultrasound. The NP suggested cancer Without a biopsy and the oncologist did as well without a biopsy. The Oncologist and I had words (Not nice ones). I've since decided not to get a biopsy, found an MD that agrees with me about not getting the biopsy and am using more wholistic methods. 

Hi Simone,

A very warm welcome to our forum. I am sorry to hear about your findings. Has your ultrasound shown up any irregularities?

Can I ask what your MD is doing in the way of more holistic methods, in order to avoid having a biopsy?

Please let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Jolamine, thank you for the warm welcome. Much appreciated. I had the one done and haven't been back. That one showed a growth and a node. My doctor of course changed the way I eat, certain supplements like vitamin D sublinqual and emotional healing from the inside out.Other stuff too much to write down, etc. As we are 3-dimensional beings - emotional healing and spiritual healing - That's really where the healing begins in my humble opinion. Thanks for asking. 

Hi Simone,

It has been some time since we heard from you and I am just wondering how you are doing?

I am sorry to hear that you have decided not to have the biopsy.

Whilst I agree that there are many lifestyle and holistic ways of treating cancer, it is easier to treat it once you know exactly what type, grade and stage of cancer you've got. Once you've got these details to hand , you can also see whether or not the changes you are following are working for you.

Emotional and spiritual healing are all very well, but you need a bench mark to be able to see how well they are all working for you.

I hope that you are still keeping well and, holding on to that positive attitude.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

please please please trust the doctors who have been practising medicine for 7+ years. A biopsy is not a particularly long procedure and it will give you a more definitive answer. I think I’m about to be given bad news, we’ve got children 3 and 5 years old. Me and my wife are/will doing/do whatever gives us the best chance of keeping us as a complete family as long as possible. Don’t want to be rude but don’t be a mug!

Hi Wiggy,

Welcome to our forum.

I sincerely hope that you are wrong and, that your results are not as bad as you're expecting.

Do please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine

Thankyou jolamine

when  say I , I meant we. My wife is the one awaiting results and it’s heartbreaking watching this whirlwind going on around me. I’m staying positive and have my fingers crossed. We’ve got lots of support. We are going to stay strong. We can do this whatever the result because we have to. 

Hi Wiggy,

One of the sad things about cancer is that it doesn't just affect the individual. It affects their entire family. There are so many young families going through this torture at the moment. How is your wife coping with all that is happening? There are so many unknowns and a whirlwind of activity when first attending the breast clinic, that she will not feel in charge of all that is happening. No matter what the results turn out to be, she should feel better emotionally once she knows exactly what she is dealing with.

If she is anything like me when I was diagnosed 10 years ago, she will be giving you a hard time emotionally. This is not intentional. It is just so hard to take it all in and, we tend to lash out at our nearest and dearest in an effort to reduce our fears and worries. You sound like a great support to her. All I can say is 'hang on in there things will improve'. It is difficult to stay positive, but do please try, as it makes all the difference to how you will both cope with a cancer diagnosis.

It sounds as if you have started out by both being totally open about all that is going on to one another. Try to keep these doors open, as it makes all the difference in the world to have someone to talk to openly about everything.

When are you due to get the results? Are you planning to attend this appointment with her? She will need someone with her, especially if the results are not good. It can also be a good idea to draw up a list of questions before each appointment. Your input will be helpful, as you may think of questions that she doesn't. This list will change from one visit to the next.

I tend to type out 2 copies of this. I keep one and my hubby has the other. As I ask questions he writes down the answers, because it is all too easy to forget to ask important questions or to forget the replies before you have even left the hospital.

I do hope that the results turn out to be better than you're expecting. Do please keep in toouch and let us know how you are getting on. We are always here for you both.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

she’s actually not giving me a hard time. She’s worried but she is being really good. I’m just throwing positivity at her. Some of it is running off. So I’ll keep that tactic. Hopefully all will be fine. 

Thankyou again. 

Hi Wiggy,

I'm glad to hear that she's not giving you a hard time, but you may still have to face this at some stage. We often tend to become very emotional and to cry at the slightest thing.

It's good to hear that some of your positivity is running off on her. Keep on throwing as much as you can.

Have you been given an appointment to get your tests yet?

Fingers crossed that they are better than you expect.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

so she had that ultrasound type thing, then immediately had a biopsy and bloods done and awaiting the results. The appointment for the results is Tuesday next week. Longest week ever. I appreciate I may have to face it, but I’ve been through the crying thing/emotions (myself and my wife)the first two days. I’m not a big fan. Just wanna see if/what we’re dealing with and go from there. I just wanted to say earlier that if a doctor recommends something, I’d probably do it/encourage others to do it.