Its been a horrible week just waiting, I know the MDT meeting was today so was hoping I would hear but nothing as of yet. Fingers crossed for you!

Jess x

Candy, did they call you or send a letter?

Jess

Thanks for responding and sorry it's taken me this long to respond. Been trying to get my head around everything and failing. Cant stop crying. 

I hope you dont mind me asking, what stage were you diagnosed with? 

Thanks again for getting back to me x 

That's ok. Sometimes it's hard to get your head around things and then you remember you've got more questions and come back to it later .

I don't remember them giving me a stage. It was a grade 3 invasive ductal carcinoma. The main lump was 6cm and I had the surrounding lymph nodes involved too. Apparently it lit up like a Christmas tree on my PET scan . 
 

Give yourself a bit of grace right now. It's overwhelming. I remember just wanting to sleep when I was first diagnosed. There were just too many emotions. My boys were 6 and two weeks short of being 2 when I got my diagnosis. Every time I thought of them I'd start crying. Eventually, once I was into the routine of treatment, I was fine. I just wanted to get my head down and get it over with. At the end of treatment I went for some counselling to process it all. My local hospital has a dedicated complementary therapy suite for current and former cancer patients, and counselling is one of the the things they offer. 
 

Do you have a good support network? x

Hi. I have friends and family but I don't want to upset them.  I have a 4 year old who I can barely look at and my husband just tells me to be positive. 

All I can think of is the size of my lump and it spreading, I have pains in what feels like everywhere and I'm tired of feeling this way. And if and when they tell me that it has spread how am I supposed to deal with that.  Sorry I'm having a really bad day 

Hi Esposito,

I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer in the past 11 years and, I am currently undergoing tests for a third. I also lost my mum to this awful disease 20 years before I was diagnosed. We all find it difficult to deal with all the 'unknowns' surrounding a diagnosis like this and we all have black days at times.

Whatever the outcome, you will find it easier to deal with once you know exactly what you are facing and can move forward with treatment. It is almost impossible to be positive at this stage, but you will find this helpful when you start on your treatment path. 

When are you expecting your results through? Don't forget that we are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi. I'm feeling a little calmer today. I have my breast mri tomorrow and meeting with the surgeon on Thursday with my MRI results so I'm right at the beginning. Ive mentioned my aches and pains but they keep saying that they need to deal with my cancer lump first which is true but Its not helping my frame ot mind. Seems each day i have more and more pains. 

Thanks

Sara

It's ok to have those days. Hopefully everything will go ok with the mri tomorrow and with the results on Thursday. I'll keep everything crossed for you x

Hi Sara,

I'm glad to hear that today is a slightly better day. Many of us have additional aches and pains whilst we are waiting for a diagnosis and our minds nearly always veer towards the worst case scenario. Once we get the diagnosis, many of these seem to settle down and we realise that they were due to anxiety.

I'm not saying that this is so in your case, but perhaps your doctors are waiting until they get your cancer results before they start looking for anything else.

I hope that all goes well with your MRI tomorrow and that your news is better than you expect it to be on Thursay.

Please let us know how you get on and remember that we are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx