Hi Danielle,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

I am so sorry to hear about tour family history of cancer - it's no wonder you 're scared!

As I'm sure you know, it's impossible to tell until you get the biopsy results, but here's hoping for good news on Monday. I was in a similar position 16 years ago. I lost my mum to secondary breast cancer, along with several other family members to other cancers.

Unfortunately, I wasn't one of the lucky ones and I did get a cancer diagnosis. In the first year after surgery, I developed a second cancer in the same breast and pre-cancer in the other one. I had a double mastectomy for the second bout and I still live a busy and fulfilling life. I found that there was just no comparison between the diagnosis, treatment and aftercare which mum and I had. Cancer management has really made tremendous strides in recent years.

I shall be thinking of you on Monday. Please let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Aww bless you Jolamine, thank you so so much for your response. I really appreciate you sharing your story with me. I’m so sorry you’ve been through so much, but it’s truly wonderful you’ve been able to go back to your previous lifestyle after the nightmare you’ve endured. One thing I know for sure is how resilient we can be. I’ve seen it with my parents and you’re also a testament. I’m really trying to remain calm and think positive thoughts, trying to ride through all the other not so positive thoughts. Monday truly couldn’t come quick enough. I will definitely come back here to let you know how I get on xx 

I hope all has gone well for you. I have the same appointment next Tuesday. I’m very scared. X

Bless you. I’m so scared about my appointment. I don’t know what to do with myself. Wish you all the best xxxx

The waiting is the worst. Now I know I actually feel a bit better, because my intuition was right, I wasn’t going mad. And I found the lump myself so I feel like I took real responsibility over my health and I’m proud of that. 
Keep calm and breathe through everything, don’t suppress your emotions but ride them like driftwood on a winding river - visuals really help me. I’ve also distracted myself with bingeing documentaries. It’s hard to accept what you don’t know. I wish you all the best for your results. Please do come back to let us know how you get on. We can get through this. Big Hugs! Xx

Thank you so much! Here’s hoping and wishing the best for us all xxxx

Hi all, I had biopsies 11 days ago… my case is being reviewed by docs etc tomorrow so I still have to wait. I was told it is breast cancer, but biopsies will confirm type, stage etc. I am absolutely terrified of all this too. We are not alone ladies. Best wishes to you all. Sue x

Also waiting for biopsy results to confirm type/stage. Was anyone else in HRT at the time of diagnosis?? I was extremely upset after being told it was cancer but now just feel numb and like it’s not really happening. Feel for all of us going through this - Helen 

I feel the exact same way. It’s like having an outer body experience…