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I'm struggling to focus whilst waiting for my 2 week referral

KAJ82
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Hi All 

I have my 2week referral appointment on Monday 28th , I'm really struggling to remain focused in work , my heads just not in it at all.

I thought keeping busy would be best for me but it really isn't helping it's making my anxiety worse.

Kind regards 

Kerry

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    I think in your situation I would tell relevant people at work what is going on; in that way it reduces the amount of pressure I felt to perform as well as I did pre the pathway.  But only you know whether this would work in your particular workplace.  I guess you could go on sick leave but I personally have found that having too much time in your hands is not good either. Is there a compromise to be had here eg reducing your workload temporarily or letting go of some of the more challenging aspects of it?  Another tactic could be to set aside and hour a day to reflect on your worries and if they crop up at other times, try and assign them to that 1 hour slot.  Hope that helos

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    Thank you for your reply, I feel I'm stuck in a no win situation , I am currently working on agency in the role i am doing but the job went to advert and I was successful but as of yet I've not had a formal contract or email to say I have the job , I am fearing if I tell them the situation i am in at the minute they may change there minds on giving me the job , I'm just in such limbo , everyone keeps telling me " I have nothing to tell yet " and whilst that is true mentally I am really struggling to get through the days xx 

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    Hi KAJ82  sorry to hear that you are in this situation.  Working for agency is difficult, it is hard because you havent had anything in writing confirming the job offer yet.  You are in the worst possible place , the waiting room.  I would try and stay in work if at all possible because I think at home there is too much time on your hands and if you are like me, would be thinking of the worst possible scenario.  Have you looked on the Macmillan website.  You can phone the nurses on there and speak to someone who understands.  I used their services and they referred me to counselling which was good, you can talk through your thoughts and concerns with someone who is not personally involved.  I really wish you luck for next Monday, sending you big hugs.  

    Lee x 

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    Thank you so much for your reply.

    It's such a horrible situation to be in x

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    I find distraction one of the best ways to deal with stress.

    Another option is not to fight the anxiety but to accept it's there, that you can still function on a basic level whilst it's there and that it will not kill you....

    In a year's time, this will be a distant memory...

    Good luck

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