I'm told the MDT should be discussing me today as they have my biopsies and 2 scan results.

The cancer nurse offered to call me later today with an update post- meeting.

I know lots of people say this waiting is the hardest part and it gets easier, mentally, once you have a plan. But I'm terrified what they'll tell me. Wish me luck.

James4000 hi James I wish you all the luck in the world  I was thinking maybe this is the hardest waiting to hear your results and what can be done for you as I know it will be for me. I’m still waiting for a scan but it’s still in the 2 eeek pathway  please keep us informed  lots of love  x

Always here for you tangoPotter and James4000 and everyone who needs a hand to hold ️ 

Eastend girl your an amazing person and very caring it means a lot that your there and you and James 4000 have been there from day one xxx lots of love x

I do care and am here for you,  always remember that tangoPotter.. not amazing just someone who cares xx

Aw, thanks Tango. You, Eastend and all on here are amazing people I'm so glad I found this community. The kindness and support here is truly wonderful, and helps us all be stronger.

Thank you all for your kind words, camaraderie and love.

We've got this.

X

James4000...

United we stand ️

Stronger together .. I always feel that to know we are not alone can make a real difference... xx

Can I just ask does any one bleed when trying to force out a BM I was a bit scared I felt I needed to force to poo but I got a lot of proper blood it scared me a bit I feel sore there now maybe I shouldn’t force it  as any one else had this. It makes you scared to do a b m now  sorry for too much info 

Hi tangoPotter..just saw your message to James.. sorry if I'm butting in but.. 1st of all it's not TMI surely this is the place to offer and get support and advice

When anyone strains to have a B.M it can cause bleeding even for those without any colorectal issues..

It can be very alarming .. the bleeding usually stops when you stop straining or when motion is passed.. 

The vital thing is to keep motion easily passed,  through keeping well hydrated and sometimes with laxatives.. many people are prescribed laxatives by their specialist .. I have a friend with bowel cancer..she is prescribed laxatives but waits until she feels constipated and then strains to pass motion..I have tried so many times to explain that taking the meds before she gets problems is important but...

I use wipes and zinc and castor oil cream after every BM... the damage caused to the anus/sphincter can lead to fissures which are very sore and can bleed..

You need to take extra care of your bottom much the same way as we do with a baby.. nappy rash etc..

Take care xx

Eastendgirl thank you for your reply I haven’t had the blood this bad before it was alarming to see as I call it real blood   Feel a bit scared of going to toilet now  then you think is my tumour got worse probably me over thinking again  xx

I know you're scared and that can make the problem worse, if you wait/don't go to the toilet the motion will be harder to pass.. do you have a specialist nurse caring for you it is helpful to talk to her about the situation.  When a tumour is low in the bowel, motion can be trapped behind it, making it more difficult to have BM...this is the case for my friend..which is why it's so important not to become constipated ... please get it touch with the Nurse or consultant in charge of your case, they will be able to offer reassurance  x

The rectum and intestinal tract generally are very blood rich so small tears can produce a lot of volume of blood. My brother was passing a lot of blood, went to a&e, but it was a fissure and hemorhoids. What you're going through, tango, is really scary and symptoms should be reported and examined. I'm just saying that it can appear a lot worse because bleeding is so scary from there, especially when you have a tumour. I hope you find that it is a benign tumour when the biopsies come back. It's really hard what you are all going through. Though I wish you were all healthy and not going through this I'm glad you've got each others' support.

The rectum and intestinal tract generally are very blood rich so small tears can produce a lot of volume of blood. My brother was passing a lot of blood, went to a&e, but it was a fissure and hemorhoids. What you're going through, tango, is really scary and symptoms should be reported and examined. I'm just saying that it can appear a lot worse because bleeding is so scary from there, especially when you have a tumour. I hope you find that it is a benign tumour when the biopsies come back. It's really hard what you are all going through. Though I wish you were all healthy and not going through this I'm glad you've got each others' support.

Lyns/21 thank you for your reply  I was told my tumour is a malignant one so I’m so hoping it’s treatable when every thing comes together biopsies and scans it’s all a waiting game x

It seems like you have been waiting a long time and if you think the bleeding has got worse you should let them know ,especially as you still have another week to go ,they won't mind at all if you ask their expert advice in fact they'd rather you did .

A small amount of blood in water or on toilet bowl/tissue can look alarming,  I agree with you.. many years ago I had an impacted bowel..the bathroom looked as though a murder had been committed from the blood splatter.. absolutely terrifying..

As you say a fissure/ internal and external haemorrhoids when they bleed can be very alarming..

Lots of care, support and understanding here which is vital for us all..