She's not around to ask just now. I'm absolutely shocking with ages, b'days etc. She was at the tail end of her 40's, that i do know. She'd smack me in the head for not knowing. I'm not ashamed to admit it, but I'm one of those stereotypical guys when it comes to remembering this sort of stuff.

I'm good with round numbers like 30, 35, 40 etc. But give me a 42, 36 etc, i struggle. I remember when i had an accident a few years ago, i was sitting having a massive to and fro with the paramedic in the back of an ambulance about how old i was. We had to eventually get a tablet out and put it through Google. Aye, never ask me folks ages. I know my kid is 16 because a 16th b'day is a biggie. But she'll be 16 until she's 18, and 18 or 19 until she's 21.

Hello everyone.

Im really struggling today (Im so sorry to be on here and just moan) 

Im terrified. I just tried getting some answers out of the breast clinic, my biopsy results are in and due to be discussed by the MDT tomorrow. They haven't cancelled my MRI for Monday.

If it was negative they would probably cancel my MRI for Monday wouldn't they? 
Surely if it was benign they could tell me over the phone? The nurse on the phone sounded very sympathetic and asked if I had a partner. 

The MDT team meet every Friday, the nurse said they will be speaking tomorrow but will likely need the MRI results before speaking to me. 
My mind is racing, I feel so desperate right now, none of this feels real. 

Hi hun, aww calm down sweet, it's the waiting and unknown and THATS EXACTLY what I went through, hence lost the plot and walked out of work! I know what you are going through believe me....I got me letters through the post today, now it's real, but I'm OK, I'm back in work from Monday until operation date....I have to go back due to finance reasons....look, try and keep busy, sort out that drawer that's full of ***, we've all got one.  Lol...its in their hands now hun and they will ring you to go in and have "that chat", don't go alone whatever they say you may not hear it all, not saying it's not good news, I've got everything crossed for you sweetheart. My results were discussed by the team before I knew anything so that's normal...talk to your loved ones, I've told quite a few people not looking for sympathy but if I bumped into them didn't want to break down...I'm not saying it's easy, I'm absolutely petrified, operation omg...but it's a journey I have to go. I've started a diary, just for me when I go to bed, it helps to put my feelings in writing. You'll get there hun, I'm sure you will..xx

Hi Rambleon. They are highly unlikely to give you results over the phone by a breast care nurse either way.     I know it's scary and overwhelming. They will want the MRI and a final MDT discussion either way before giving you the results.  The best thing you can do (IMO) is to go for the MRI give it a week or so and ask for a cancellation appointment to see if you can get the results sooner (sorry I can't remember if you have a further appt booked in).   Honestly, I would recommend counselling in the interim if you can get it privately. It really helped me. 

Thank you so much both, If I could hug you right now I would!!

its just so *** not knowing and having this horrible feeling. My stomach feels iffy, my throat is tight nearly all of the time and my heads just playing the worst tricks on me now. I just feel so so guilty. In one respect Im like “thank god I got this tiny tiny dent seen!!” In the other I just desperately want to be in the frame of mind I was in before my life felt upside down xxx

It's so hard on everyone. I found the waiting for the biopsy results so so hard. I didn't sleep nor eat. It's torture.  Be kind to yourself. It does get easier, I promise. Xx

My wife was 49 (weeks before her 50th). She was not impressed i had to ask her.

About the telephone call. We all have a bad habit of reading too much into something. Whether it be a single word in a letter, or over analysing a conversation we had over the telephone. It's what we do. The 1st appointment we had with the oncologist after her scans, and when we were about to be given the full diagnosis, there was a nurse hanging around in the waiting room. She only went in with certain people, whilst leaving others to go in themselves. I said to my wife, that must be the bad news nurse because one of the patients she went in with came out in tears. I was scowling at her, and cursing her in my head that she better not come into the room when we were in.

We got called in, and the nurse opened the door, and my heart sank. We were gonna be given bad, bad news. In reality, she opened the door and asked the oncologist a question regarding another patient, then left. You'll also go in on the day of your appointment and overanalyse the receptionist, and convince yourself that s/he knows you're about to get bad news. You'll look at the nurse that calls you into the room and convince yourself she's giving to a look of pity. We hear conversations between nurses and think they're talking about us, and it's all bad things. We all do it, even us partners. Poor nurses, they get a lot of flak without even knowing they're getting it.

My wife was told it was probable bad news on her biopsy and mammogram appointment, so we were forewarned what to expect. But the nurse said even if the biopsies came back as benign, whatever was in her needed to come out regardless, so it was always gonna be a face to face appointment good or bad.

Hello all,

well unfortunately it is indeed cancer. 
i have provisional grade 2 IDC and DICS in my left breast. A lot of unknowns, I have my MRI Monday and awaiting the date for my CAT scan which will determine the stage cancer I believe. Its Oestrogen and progesterone positive but waiting to hear the HER 2 status. It doesn't appear that it was caught early which is upsetting. Its described as 6cm involvement so I believe that between the IDC and DICS it covers 6cms but Axilla appear normal as per my ultrasound so praying it has not spread. Surgery is a definite as I believe radiation and tablets although it was mentioned chemo may be dependent on the HER status. Does this sound similar to anyone else? 

Just want to say thank you all for your time and kindness, its been so so appreciated xxx

Morning, aww so sorry to read this, it's all a shock and upsetting I know. Take each step as it comes, you've got this. Been thinking about you...stay on here for support, it's a journey we have to face, your not on your own!! Things will move quickly now, especially after Monday when you have your scan.. stay positive, I know it's hard, once I got my results I needed time to process it all, in my head.  Massive hugs xxx

Thank you so much, massive hugs back to you xxxx