Remember you can deal with what you know. Sending strength x

Thank you xxxx

I'm glad you are both generally doing OK.  Take it easy if you can. 

I have been chasing daily since Wednesday and I now finally have an oncology appointment on 16th September. It seems that if I hadn't been chasing I would still be waiting! I'm fuming at their nonchalant attitude however I'm glad I've not got an appointment. I feel like I'm catching up a bit with the time I've lost due to their massive issue.

I hope you both have a peaceful weekend.   Xx

Can't believe you've had to do all the chasing, so annoying and frustrating to...hope you have a relaxing weekend to...xx

Oh lovely this must have been so so annoying!!  Relieved you have the appointment but gosh you shouldn't have to be chasing things down yourself! 
TM1  hope your dog walk went well, Ive got three schnauzers who Im not braving walking yet! Ones a lot smaller than the other two so will try and walk him first I think.

Have a lovely weekend both xxxx

Morning, how are you doing? I'm getting pressureed to go back to work from the boss! Got a text, yes a bloody text, on Tuesday basically saying how was physio (that wax Monday), thought you have been in today following that.....I couldn't believe what I was reading and so upset. I'm just over a week from surgery and still getting pain in my arm, still doing my exercises 3 times a day. I phoned my breast care nurse, she couldn't believe what I was telling her. I rang one of the bosses and well I felt he didn't believe me, think my only bonus was the fact I can't drive yet anyway as I won't be insured because I've had surgery and my arm is restricted. I have an office job with a lot of keyboard work and like I've been told, repetitive hands on work at this moment in time will not help my recovery....I'm just so down at the moment and worrying when I should be concentrating on getting better! Xx

Morning lovely!! Im alright hanging on in there. Some people just dont have a clue!! Please do not be pressured into going back before YOU are ready, Its so insensitive of them to assume anything let alone assuming you’d just be back right as rain considering everything you have been through. How are you feeling lovely? Hope your recovery is going well, rest up and look after yourself xxxx

Honestly that's awful. What is the next step in your treatment plan? Don't forget it can change. 

My surgeon said no work for at least 4 weeks and I'm signed off for 2 more months now due to chemo and that's likely to be extended. Chemo was not in my initial MDT recommendation.

The Breast Cancer Now seminar I did said phased return over a long time is required due to fatigue and you need to under promise not over promise as that can lead to further time off.

Also going back too early will affect your Bradford score if you have more time off.  Your need to go to your HR and give them.a realistic appraisal of this. 

Hope you are doing OK. 

I'm OK I suppose but like I said spending time worrying. It knocked me sideways that's for sure. I've had tons of get well messages and window sill looks like a florist at the moment BUT nothing from work, not even a get well card (not that I'm desperate for one) but there's no support whatsoever. Didn't sleep well last night, some nights better than others. Glad you are hanging in there to, it's not easy is it....gonna go and make myself look half decent lol xxxx

Hi hun, well my next appointment is 4th October where I get final results and after talking to my breast care nurse she is of the opinion I'll have radiotherapy because lumpectomy and radiotherapy go hand in hand. There is no HR department hun, its a small company but with a large client base. I've read 4 to six weeks is standard...there's no compassion whatsoever just clearly don't care or understand the situation. When I got diagnosed and I went back in, no mention of it whatsoever, like it wasn't happening:-(. Done my morning exercises and arm is aching now....I'll be ringing doctors tomorrow and get another sick note..how are you doing, hope you get through chemo OK lovely, thinking of you xxx

Oh lovely dont give them second though in your work and definitely dont let them make you feel like you have to be back before your ready. RedRuth84 is spot on, treatment plans can change and your better off in the long run taking the time you need than going back then taking time off again. Im lucky my work has been understanding but then my workplace is so unstable Im not even sure if I have much of a job to go back to! Xx

Hi just read your post and I find it unbelievable that they are trying to get you back into work so soon and no caring attitude or empathy ,even when I had a knee replacement the time off was supposed to be 2 weeks to 12 weeks ,I was actually off 20 weeks because everyone heals differently and only you can say how long you need ,its a shame you don't have an occupational therapist  because they would have helped, they helped me lots when they started getting on my case , it takes as long as it takes for you physically and emotionally as well , don't be rushed its your health .

Hi just read your post and I find it unbelievable that they are trying to get you back into work so soon and no caring attitude or empathy ,even when I had a knee replacement the time off was supposed to be 2 weeks to 12 weeks ,I was actually off 20 weeks because everyone heals differently and only you can say how long you need ,its a shame you don't have an occupational therapist  because they would have helped, they helped me lots when they started getting on my case , it takes as long as it takes for you physically and emotionally as well , don't be rushed its your health .

Hi Jenny, you are so right! Everyone is different, no one knows until they are in this situation. I certainly don't want to be rushed x