I can't relate to this at all. Like even in the slightest. I'm sorry you've found out too late that you've been living with an idiot. You deserve better.

When my wife and I walked out after her first proper appointment with the oncologist, and she'll tell you this herself, I could see the fear in her eyes, and i knew she'd also have those thoughts about me running through her head. I made sure those were the first words out of my mouth. That no matter the physical changes that would happen, she better not ever think it would affect me. Of course losing her hair, and the threat of having to lose a boob would affect her mentally as and when those moments came, but she was to leave me out of her reasons why losing both those things would be bad. She understood all this, and never once felt ashamed in front of me. Luckily, after chemo, her mastectomy was downgraded to a lumpectomy. Also, not all women lose their hair. What i'm saying is, not everything might pan out the way you think it will. It might, but it also might not. So you're fully aware of what you're about to face, someone needs to be honest, there's actually a decent chance you'll put weight on during your chemo, not lose it. Steroids, hormones etc can mean you gain weight. This was one of the misconceptions we had going into this, cancer and treatment = weight loss, it not. Maybe for some cancers, but not all cancers.

Like my wife, you are more than a pair of boobs. Your husband's reaction is more bull on top of an already large pile of bull, but I hope you realise you deserve better. No matter how your treatment pans out, your life is about to change forever. I could say more, but would get banned for doing so, as this sort of stuff annoys me no end.

I really hope you don't let this guy drag you down if he continues this attitude.

This!!!! What an absolutely amazing example of a loving partner you are!! 

This!!!! What an absolutely amazing example of a loving partner you are!!