I get that impression. Well I am expecting bad news so anything else would just be a huge relief. I hope your appointment goes well x

Fingers crossed for both of us - whatever the weather we will get through this !! **** cancer 

They did this with my wife too. Basically told her it didn't look benign. Believe it or not, when you're sat there getting the actual conformation, you realise, them breaking it to you in increments does help a little on the day. You kinda have that wee bit in-between to get your head around it somewhat, so you're not just being whacked with a ton weight there and then.

Not gonna lie, it still wasn't good, but we expected D day to be worse. Like you see on TV. It wasn't for us as we 95% knew it was going to be the dreaded news.

We left the hospital that day feeling fairly positive. It's going to be a rollercoaster until you know exactly what is what.

Hi Louxioux,

I agree totally with what Kiera has said. Waiting for results is a terribly stressful time and tears are never far away. I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer in the past 12 years, plus a few scares. On three occasions my consultant was pretty sure that I had cancer. After biopsy, this turned out to be only 2. I still manage to live a busy and fulfilling life, despite all this. It is perfectly normal to get clips inserted. This helps to locate the problem area for further investigations, or during surgery. Breast cancer is one of the most treatable forms of cancer these days.

We always advise people not to google until they know what they are dealing with. There are many different types of breast cancer and it is impossible to differentiate between them until the result of your biopsy comes back. In the meanwhile, you’ll only scare yourself further and serve no useful purpose.

I do hope that all turns out well for you on Wednesday. Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Kiera,

I hope that your treatment is going well. It really does help when you have a positive attitude.

Thinking of you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Lauren,

I'm sorry to hear that you are in this unenviable position too. It is good toear that yoon't have much longer to wait and, I sincerely hope that all turns out well for you on Wednesday. Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hello, thank you for your reply. I'm so sorry to hear your wife is going through this. What was she diagnosed with? How is she coping? How are you coping? 

I feel complete guilt that I will be putting my little family through hell. 

I do think you're right, it has given me the chance to come to terms with it's a big possibility. I went to my appointment completely convinced it was going to be nothing so the whole appointment was horrendous, I was an absolute mess.

One more day to go, feeling incredibly anxious today but I am going to get out with my children and syltay off Google!

Hi Jolamine, thank you forbyour reply. I cant imagine how scary it must be having to through this a number of times. So glad to hear you have been living a nearly normal life, this is so important to me as my children are still so little. 

I am going to try and stay off Google today, I know its not helping or going to change the situation.

They will be reviewing my results tomorrow.. my anxiety is through the roof, I am petrified. I just hope that if it does turn out to be the dreaded word then there will be treatments for it.  

I am glad I have found this little community. It really helps to speak to people who know exactly how you're feeling. 

Good morning all. 

I am new to this site, I joined this morning. It's a fantastic group. 

I have had problems with my left axillia and lumpbon my left breast off and on now since 2015. I finally had a ultrasound scan last Wednesday, followed then by a mammogram and 2 biopsies. I too was told it's looking serious and is looking very much like cancer. 

I have been beside my self with worry and suffer from anxiety badly. I am not sleeping very well. I have a 10yr old son. He has been extremely supportive. 

I have to go back to the clinic tomorrow go get my biopsie results. I am beside myself with worry. 

Did anyone else get told on day on biopsies that it a looking serious? 

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Many thanks 

Hiya.

Before i get onto how my wife is doing, I just wanted to say, you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. You didn't ask for this, and you did nothing wrong. It's just down to sheer bad luck. It can happen to anyone, at anytime. You aren't putting your family through anything. So lose that guilt and concentrate on yourself and your family as you normally would.

Yeah, my wife's story basically read very similar to yours insofar as the initial appointment day went. She was told it didn't look good. At no point during all this has anyone used the word "cancer" with us. Which, all things considered, is very surprising. But they used every other piece of terminology. Sinister, malignant etc etc etc, but not "cancer". I think this was done purposely as not to freak people out.

We were told not to go home thinking it was anything other than it being the news we were dreading. They do get it wrong sometimes, there are stories out there proving this to be the case, but they are rare. But until the biopsies are back, you do still have that slither of hope because a biopsy is needed to give a diagnosis.

Her diagnosis was grade 3, triple positive. She had a 4.6cm tumour in her breast and 2 lymph nodes under her arm. Luckily, all the scans came back stating it was all contain within the breast and local nodes.

The worst part mentally with all this was the unknown. It's what gets you. It's awful and there is no magic bullet to make this better. The best you can do is to keep yourself busy, but as you will now know yourself, that is easier said than done.