Hello,

I had a similar diagnosis..except I was ductal...and her2 + .....

we told family and only very close friends ( no announcements on Facebook...lol) I wanted to tell my close friends as I knew they would be supportive plus if I tried to keep it secret ...they would be annoyed , plus how would I explain we couldn't meet up whilst going through treatments? 
 

Do tell your closest friends, you'll be pleased you did.... x

Hi Travelbug,

A very warm welcome to our forum. I totally agree with Marilyn. The sooner you break the news to your friends, the easier you will find things. Could you possibly meet up with some of the girls and tell them over a coffee? How they react will depend on how you break the news to them. Although this was never the diagnosis you wanted to be given, there are some positives in your story.

The main one of these is that you are strongly hormone positive. Breast cancer is also the most treatable form of cancer and, now that you have this diagnosis, I am sure that you are ready to beat this. If you approach this with a positive attitude, your friends will too and, will be better able to help and support both you and your husband through this.

You will also find that news travel fast, so, if you tell a few close friends, chances are that the rest will get to hear soon anyway. I am glad to hear that you don't have long to wait for your operation and hope that you can let your friends know before this happens.

I was diagnosed with breast cancer 12 years ago and, had a second bout 11 years ago, but I am doing well now, living a busy and fulfilling life. I hope that all goes well for you. Please keep in touch and, remember that we are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you so much for your calm response and I do take evrything you say onboard.

Thanks again

Hi Travelbug

Following my diagnosis I felt a sense of importance that I make all my family and friends aware of what was happening to me.

there is no family history of Breast Cancer and I felt extremely lucky to have found the lump very early.  I checked myself regularly and found a small pea sized lump in my left breast in April of this year. 

I wanted to make sure that all my female friends checked themselves so I shouted on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram that all my friends (and family) should be examining their breasts.  The support I've received from female and male friends and family  has been overwhelming. I feel blessed that so many people care. 

Obviously this approach may not be for everyone, but the more open I've been with my diagnosis and treatment the easier my friends have found it to approach me. 

I hope you find the right way for you and your husband 

Anne x