Welcome to our friendly forum.  Wife of stage 4 lung cancer husband and kept a daily blog since after diagnosis now over four years, so if you need advice or help I'm here.  Carol 

Hi Carol

Thank you ️ That's really refreshing to know as other than this pain she isn't ill

shes 75 and in good health no other underlying conditions they rushed her through for a biopsy last week and we went today they said it's extensive but they can offer palliative chemo I guess I'd like to have more info on what this may do to her health as she's well in herself she walks eats well doesn't smoke or drink and other than the pain in her back is fine I don't want her to have chemo and be ill and take away quality of life bit if she does have it how much longer would this give her

ee only lost my dad five years ago and he had chemo and was really ill x

Chemo is hard, Norman wasn't ill either just a niggly cough, he's now 75 as well.  But do you want quality of life or quantity, it was so hard and kills your immunity so every illness is worse, then it's radiotherapy as well and keeping away from everyone so you don't catch anything from them.  He's now on immunotherapy which is kinder but still every three weeks.  Tough decisions to be made and a lot to consider.  My decision was to do whatever my husband decides.  Carol 

I think mum will give the first lot a go but if she's then Ill I don't think she will have anymore x it's her choice at the end of the day x 

I think mum will give the first lot a go but if she's then Ill I don't think she will have anymore x it's her choice at the end of the day x 

Hi Kbfox and Carol,

My dad has had exactly same diagnosis stage 4 lung cancer with shadow on hip and as he describes them 'spots on bones. '

He begins chemo this Friday with immunotherapy. Every 3 weeks. 

I'm nervous but he's ready to fight a strong man. He's 61 and good health too. They said in 2 years they will review his treatment put him on other plans if need be. They said there is so much treatment available for him. (Hopeful)

It's terrifying I'm so close to my dad. So I'm always looking for advice etc. First time on here. But I had to reply when I seen your posts

Thinking of you both. Its so incredibly hard xxx

Hello Dorris167

if you need anyone to chat to then please just let me know and I'd really like to know how he's getting on 

I wish you all the very best please stay in touch xx

Katy