Joined the big C club

Hi all.

Aged 53, recently diagnosed with prostate cancer, stage 4 and Gleason 10, 5+5. 

As a double whammy I had just been made redundant (2 weeks prior diagnosis) from my job with fantastic sickness benefits , to ease myself into semi retirement. Then boom ,  hit with both barrels, it's not how semi retirement was meant to pan out.

Wife and I have both had a good cry , all family and friends told. 

But yesterday when walking out of hospital, I had a ' I don't believe I've got cancer' moment. It's still a bit surreal.

What's your coping mechanism ?

All the best folks, summers on its way :-) 

 

Col

 

 

  • Hi there and welcome to our little chat room....

    Yea you will feel every emotion in those early days ... it's like being put on the scariest rollercoaster ride ever.... not knowing how or when you can get off ... highs and positivity.... then plunging down into the unknown .... we've all been there ... and the looks people give you in sympathy,  don't help much ... but they mean well ... and it means they care ...

    But saying that, it eases a bit once you start treatment ...  and you have a plan started ... l spent 2 days locked away, crying and cussing cancer ... then my daughter in law said , no more what ifs.... no more panicking.... no looking ahead ... well live in the day and take each problem as and when it comes up... and well do it together ..... was just the words I needed ... 

    So picked my self up... got a pair of pink vertual boxing gloves on ... looked it in the eye and got ready to box back .... yea get down sometimes but have a good cry and stand back up and fight again ... coz cancer wants you to spend every day crying and giving up ... but let's stick two fingers up to cancer and kick it's butt.... it's not about winning or losing.... it's about doing everything we can on that cancer journey we find our selfs on .... sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie x

  • Hi I think Chrissie just about said it all so just another welcome to the family and the club nobody wants to join,free membership,no rules apart from keeping language reasonably clean.

    I've never figured out some of the Gleason score, stage 4 is easy my Gleason was 4+4= 8 PSA 1580+ my other scores were T3B N1 M1B I've prostate cancer gone to lymph nodes spine ribs pelvis and a lung,was diagnosed Feb 2016 started as uncurable now classed as palative care .

    I'm just living with my uninvited guest trying to have a normal life especially with covid very hard.

    Remember keep in touch all new members welcome,

    Billy

  • I somehow have found the forum comforting and will be taking tis slogan forward:

    I'm just living with my uninvited guest trying to have a normal life. 

    (especially with covid very hard)

     

    Reminds me of the line i am having an old flame for tea, somehow it amusses me.Thank you for your post/content. Todays a better day for it. 

     

    Take care, hpoefully something crosses your path to make you smile or chuckle