Recently diagnosed with BC

Hi everyone, 

Been diagnose with grade 1 BC. It’s worrying and had sleepless nights after being diagnosed in November after second mammogram that I got .7mm grade 1 BC. No matter how old you are it really affect to individual. We are bombarded with lots of question= how to deal with it? What is my kid’s  future when I’m gone?  How long I gonna live? Can I survive the treatment when I have underlying health issues? etc, etc.  I am 60 and recently been diagnosed with osteoarthritis and constant high blood pressure. 

Done the lumpectomy on 16 December 2020 and waiting for the schedule for radiotherapy. I was told with my breast doctor that after the breast operation we will wait for the biopsy. If anything left after the operation I will undergo a second breast operation. Then followed by radiotherapy for a week and medication up to 5 years. 

For now, I never tell any of our friends what’s going on. I want to keep it secret for now that I am undergoing treatment. Because to me telling them doesn’t help. I don’t want them talking about me dying. 

I only have the guts to join the chat and tell you about my health condition and hopefully we can share how we deal with our illnesses. I am a Christian and I believe God will never abandon us in times we needed Him most.

Best wishes. 

LL2011

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  • Hi 

    I am sorry to hear that you have been diagnosed with BC

    I am Diagnosed with stage 1 grade 2 BC 

    Had surgery on the 17nov 

    They did the biography on lymph nodes 

    Had MRI that came clear  so no further surgery is needed  and just started radio therapy 2 days ago for five days . I am 57

    I know it's very worrying  but you haveto stay positive  its stage one  high chances are it would not have  spread !! 

    Take one day at time and look after yourself  and tell your close family you will need family support 

    Jeet123

     

  • Hello,

    Thank you for the message. I was told with my breast doctor that grade 1 BC is treatable. But I'm worried because I have other health issues. Recently  October 2020 after my bone density I was diagnosed with osteoarthritis and start seeing physiotherapy. The following month  November I was diagnosed with BC so I informed my physiotherapist what was going on and was scheduled for operation on 16 December 2020. My physiotherapist discharged me and she said my breast doctor know what they can do with my bone problem.

    I am still waiting to see my surgeon, supposed to be my appointment was yesterday but it was cancelled as they are still waiting for the biopsy result.

    I am in constant pain everyday with my shoulder bones and lumbar spine and on pain reliever. The  pain add to my stress thinking about my illnesses! I hope no more cancellation of appointment next Thursday so I can talk to my breast doctor about it and see when am I going to have a radiotherapy.

    Sending you all the best xx

  • Hi Jolamine,

    It is always a great pleasure to get a reply from you as member of support group here in CRUK. I sent a couple of messages to some ladies here but no reply. Hope they are all okay after their treatments. 

    Not much to do today. I plan to walk later but it is very cold outside (tonight will be -5 in our county) so I just hang around the house and do something to occupy my time. Now I have the time to chat and reply to your message. 

    As I said in my previous message that you are lucky to have an understanding and loving husband of 47 years. And that’s a bonus if he can cook because that is a big help for you. 

    I think I was unfortunate when it comes to husband that cook. My late first husband doesn’t cook. Now another husband don’t cook. He can do simple meal like beans on toast, eggs on toast, steak and chips and the rest if I don’t cook he end up go to the shop and buy ready made  food and put in the oven or microwave. I think he is too old to learn how to cook. I did not try to teach him because we might end up arguing in the kitchen. He is just a lazy old man when it comes to cooking as he don’t like peeling potatoes, carrots, etc. LOL 

    After had my lumpectomy he go food shopping most of the time for more than 2 months. I give him a list what to buy. Instead of buying a curry sauce he bought chilli con carne sauce. This is just an example that he did not cook and did not know what to buy although it is on the list. 

    I don't mind preparing our food especially now that I am not working, we don’t have pets to look after so just the two of us looking after each other. He did not retire at 65. He is one of the bosses in the company so directors and staffs cannot kick him out until he is ready to retired at 72. He still have job to do and go to his office once a week for a couple of hours. 

    I can imagine how beautiful your garden when all those bulbs started to blooms on its beautiful flowers. I always love spring time and summer where you can see flowers everywhere. It’s not long now you’ll be busy attending to your garden.

    This is what we are looking for when things back to normal and we can travel again like we did before the covid to go out the country 4 - 5 x a year. We got stock last year no chance to travel so we are so desperate to go to warm and sunny countries. Keep finger cross in a couple of months we slowly back on the track where we can do whatever we want to do without  worrying about catching the virus. 

    Thank you once again for taking the time to reply to my message. 

    Have a blessed weekend. 

    Best regards,

    LL2011

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    Hi Lagerlime,

    I do not belong to CRUK support group. I am just a cancer pilgrim, like most others on here. It is always a worry when you get no reply. You will usually find thatthese people pop up a little further down the line and are doing well. We all have darker spells when we are recuperating from surgery or too fatigued to post for a few weeks, due to chemo or the daily rigours of radiotherapy.

    I agree that microwaved ready meals are not a patch on home cooked meals, but it sounds as if your husband can manage a simple meal, so he shouldn't starve. Chilli Con Carne sauce would certainly make an interesting addition instead of curry sauce. I cook most of my food fresh too, but I find it useful to batch cook certain meals and pop a few in the freezer. This is handy on the days when I don't have the energy to cook from scratch.

    Your husband is like me. I have my own business and I am still working part-time at 72. My initial plans were to retire at 50, but my husband had a quadruple heart by-pass just before that and had to stop working. This was followed by pneumonia and a stroke. Since then he has had several mini strokes and has recently been diagnosed with vascular dementia. Unfortunately, he didn't get any benefits, so I have had to keep working.

    It is still very cold here, but I got out in my garden today for the first time this year. I just did some tidying up and, it's amazing how much more  cared for it looks already. Seeing all the spring flowers peeping through gives us hope for the future. I love this time of year when I can look forward to seeing the summer flowers coming into bloom.

    We are looking forward to planning holidays again too, although I don't think that we'll be going abroad this year. It would be just lovely to get back to some sort of normality again. I can't wait to meet up with family and friends and start socialising again. If you normally go away 4-5 times a year, you must feel that you are really needing a holiday by now. Here's hoping that you can book one soon.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Hello @Jolamine 

    Hope everything’s okay with you and your family.

    Oops! Sorry. I misinterpret and not thinking about it before typing my previous message. Yeah you are right! We are not a member or staff  of CRUK but we are only using the website and join the cancer patient’s forum and chat with real strangers  who have the same health problem. I try to keep answering if I got a message  to keep in touch so they will know that I am still kicking and dealing alright after my breast cancer treatment. I find it very helpful when I hear testimonies from other cancer patients (like you) how they deal with it and eventually survived and live a happy life. 

    Sorry to hear about your husband’s ailments that made him stop working not in due time until his retirement age. Fortunately you have your own business and that is a big help for your  family. God bless you. 

    No matter how much we look after ourselves live a healthy lifestyle but time comes we fall ill. I don’t smoke and drink occasionally but among the 2 of us (my husband) I am a sickly  person with underlying health issues. (High blood pressure, osteoarthritis and now breast cancer) My husband smoke since he was 17 years old. He has a regular drinking sessions in the pub with his group of friends (before pandemic) 3-4 x a week, but generally he is healthy at 72.  God bless him. 

    BTW, recently I encountered a skin problem. Very dry and flaky skin. I have E45 that I used for my breast after the radiotherapy. I used E45 as my lotion but the flakes and dryness of my skin is getting worse. Good thing my husband have Diprobase he used last year for the eczema on his hands, I applied twice a day on my legs, arms and body, after 3 days my dry skin healed and back to normal. I’m still using Diprobase now as my body lotion. I think having dry and flaky skin is a side effect of Tamoxifen?  I noticed I started to gain weight although the portion of food I’m eating is still the same, I abstain from eating sugary food and red meat, (as I said before) no drinking alcohol since I was diagnosed with breast cancer in November last year, but then again, is this a side affect of Tamoxifen? I read a lot of comments from patients taking Tamoxifen and these are the side effect they mentioned about  of taking this cancer medication.

     I hope weather will be good soon so I can start walking again like what I did before that I walked at least 5-6 miles 3-4x a week. I was not able to walk far since I had lumpectomy in December so maybe gaining weight is cause of not doing more walking and exercises. 

    Well, I cannot wait for the proper spring time as well as easing the lock down in the coming months. We live in England so lock down is still in place. We cannot go anywhere except go out for food shopping. 

    Have a lovely weekend. Take care. 

    Wth kind regards, 

    LL2011

     

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    HI LagerLime,

    Hearing testimonies from others who have been through the same experiences as you is a great solace. I have certainly found this to be so throughout the years.

    It is always helpful for those who have replied to you to hear from you occasionally, so that they know you are ok. Sometimes we don’t hear from people for a while and we begin to worry. More often than not, this is just because they have been going through a bad patch or are fighting excessive fatigue, etc., so it is a great relief to hear from them again.

    Sadly, it is not always those who live a healthy life who enjoy good health throughout life. I had a great uncle who had heart problems from an early age. He drank like a fish and smoked (pipe) like a lum. His poor wife, who never smoked or drank,  spent her life running after him worrying about whether or not he’d taken his medication. He lived until he was 95 and his wife died in her 50ies. Sometimes, life just isn’t fair.

    I am sorry to hear about your dry skin, but this seems par for the course. I have heard of other ladies finding the same with E45 and they have used Dermol. You should be able to get this and/or Diprobase on prescription. Better still, why not contact your breast care nurse and ask her what is best? I use Hydromol bath and shower emollient and Hydromol ointment and occasionally turn to QV cream when the Hydromol doesn’t completely cure the problem.

    I am sorry to hear about the weight gain despite all the care you’re taking. I managed to shed 6 stone after I stopped taking Tamoxifen and then Letrozole. I had to have both knees replaced during treatment as a side-effect of Letrozole, so it took some time before I was fit enough to exercise properly. It shouldn’t be that long before you can start to get out for some nice long spring walks. We live up north, so are unlikely to begin coming out of lockdown gradually until the beginning of  May.

    I hope that you enjoy the weekend.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Hi Jolamine,

    That’s right. Receiving a reply  and listening to testimonies base on their experiences from people in this forum  is a great solace. I never expect that I’ll be part of this group chat but I am so glad that I found this site, it really help me to keep going on to my cancer journey. And also, I can express and share to a real strangers how I get on, how I’m coping with this illness. It is not always easy having a cancer but we have no choice we have to deal with it one way or another. 

    At the moment I am okay using Deprobase as my body lotion. My skin look smooth slowly back to normal. My right breast started to get healed after the radiotherapy. I feel a lot better now that I start walking every late  afternoon. I walk 2 miles everyday just walking around in the residential areas in our small town.  Next week on the 26th will be my phone call appointment with my oncologist. Hopefully there will be no more hospital appointment. 

    When I’m free I always go find new post of people who are newly diagnose with all sort of cancers. I reply to some of their post with the hope that my message to them is a bit of help ease their feelings being so down and devastated. Only to realise that there are thousands of patients has been diagnose with cancer in the UK.  And it makes me wonder why until now there is no medicine to cure of high grade cancers. They managed to make covid-19 vaccines which is new virus but for high grade cancers there is  no medicine. 

    I have a friend, I know this lady because she work here in England about 8 years ago and after she finished her contract she go back to her home country. But being apart doesn’t mean that our friendship ended. We keep communicating via social media. Last year August she was diagnosed with metastasis breast cancer that spread to her bones that made her unable to stand up and walk. She became cripple for a while and very devastated! 

    To cut a long story short, she undergo chemotherapy 6 sessions. As far as I am aware of she has no breast operation as yet. But before her 6th session of chemo, her sister in law died of stage 4 breast cancer (just 5 days ago.) They never knew that her husband’s younger sister has also breast cancer which is more aggressive than my friend’s metastasis breast cancer. They are all shocked and regret why none of the family never informed of her recent plight and only informed them of her death. 

    I got a message from my friend the other day, she said the whole family are mourning over the sudden death and loss of a member of the family. She is only in her late 40’s but she left a husband and young kids behind. So sad..

     No matter how old or young you are, we all die. When it’s our  time, it’s our  time no one can alter it.  This is what my husband said before..”we can’t take money when we die. Let’s go holiday as much a we can while we are still able to climb the stairway to board the aircraft”. He is right. As I said before we go out the country 4-5x a year. Beaches holidays and cruise holidays. When covid-19 came last year, we had no chance to go out the country anymore! Here comes the lock down until now. Very frustrating. That’s why life is too short. We have to enjoy and live life to the fullest because we only live once. 

    Take care and Big hugs.. 

    LL2011

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    Hi Lagerlime,

    I don’t think that any of us expect to find ourselves on a forum like this. The fact that it has helped so many people is testimony to how valuable it is.

    I am glad to hear that your skin is slowly returning to normal following radiation. The better weather this week, must have made it easier for you to get out walking again and, I’m sure that you’ll feel all the better for getting some fresh air.

    It does seem strange that Cancer treatment has not been prioritised in the same way as the Covid vaccine, but I expect that it all comes down to cost. We haven’t yet heard about the overall cost of the Covid vaccine – we may never hear. Despite the large sums donated to Cancer Research and the unfailing work of our researchers, I doubt that it will ever get it’s hands on a comparable sum to that used for the Covid vaccine and Covid in general.

    It is so good that you now feel able to contribute to others on this forum, who are worried about things that you have experienced and, that you can now help them to get through this. I am so sorry to hear about your friend’s metastases. She must have been devastated at the death of her sister-in-law, especially when she knew nothing about the situation beforehand. Life can be so unfair at times, especially with someone so young. I expect that the family never told her because they felt that she had enough to contend with herself.

    I sincerely hope that it won’t be too long before we can travel again and, that you and your husband can start to chase the sun once more. I hope that the consultation with your oncologist goes well on 26th.

    Please let us know how it goes.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Hi Jolamine, 

    Hope you had a nice and restful weekend after your busy days during the past week. We are doing good. Yesterday we walked 4 miles with my friend, we take advantage with  the lovely weather yesterday. I feel refreshed after walking that far and so pleased that I slowly back to my old life before the cancer diagnosed. 

    I notice that you have been sending thousands of messages since you start joining to  this cancer forum. To be exact you have 5,838 post since 15 July 2010. Wow!! That tells something of your full support to people you’re not familiar with, a real strangers. That’s an amazing effort of you to keep in touch with people who have the same health problem. 

    Since I have less things to do at home, I have more time exploring and broaden my knowledge about health and go to reliable websites searching about cancer, stages, diet, etc. So far I’ve been to these websites, CRUK, Breast Cancer Care, McMillan  and Healthline. 

    According to these website, recently the survival rate of cancer is higher compared to 40-50 years back. Because of the scientist’s untiring effort and thorough researching of cancer medication to save lives, more and more patients nowadays survive. The study of medication combine with chemotherapy and radiotherapy is really a big  help. 

    Now about cancer and sugar. I read a lot of comments from cancer patients here and in the other website/chat forum that once you are diagnose with cancer you should abstain from consuming sugar in your diet as cancer and sugar are not friends. That’s what I did. But, after reading 3 cancer research and health website, abstaining from sugary food is just a myth. There is no proof that sugar can make the cancer cells grow. In fact, our body cells - good cells and cancer cells need glucose as our body need this for our energy. 

    I am a person who are not fond of eating sweets or sugary food. For about 3 or 4 years now that I use sweetener in my tea and coffee. I don’t eat chocolate,ice cream, cakes and pudding (I make most of our pudding) I always put less sugar in it, I did not follow the exact measurement of sugar on the recipe. While my husband has “sweet tooth”.. He drink tea 8-10 cups a day with 1 teaspoon of sugar each cup of tea, plus he have stock of magnum ice cream in the freezer and he love eating chocolate. He smoke a lot and now drink beer moderately at home because pubs here are still close. But it’s me have breast cancer. I realise it’s silly of not eating food with sugar. I would not be of balance diet if I completely abstain from eating sweet food. Now I slowly having back to a match box size of brownies once a day. Too much of everything is bad for you, but in moderation you’ll get a good and healthy diet. 

    I remember your story about your great uncle. He drunk like a fish and smoke pipe like a lum but he live 95 years old longer than his wife. Sometimes life is not fair. In my adulthood I am always watching my diet but I got high blood pressure, osteoarthritis and now cancer, while my husband is generally healthy. Bless him. 

    You got the point that my friend’s in laws did not informed them about her husband’s sister died recently of stage 4 breast cancer because she has too much already to deal with her own cancer. She sent me a photo through messenger and she completely lost her hair because of 6 session of chemotherapy. Same story  with me, I did not tell my friend that last November I was diagnosed with BC. So it is understandable that the plight of her sister in law has been kept from her until she passed away. 

    I get strength from your story how you deal with your cancer and other health issues and survive. You give me hope and you are my inspiration to carry on with my long journey. Thank you for sharing me your experience, it mean a lot to me. I am 64 next month. I wish I will live many years or beyond my targeted treatment of up to 5 years of Tamoxifen and that will be a bonus to me. Only God knows.

    We do hope too that we can travel for holiday in the not too distant future but it looks like there is a threat for third wave of covid-19 in European countries. As of now we don’t have plan to go holiday outside the UK. We are looking for “staycation” but hotels around the UK is very expensive. Your one week staycation  you can spend that for 2 weeks holiday in abroad. So let’s see what we can do. For now, just follow the guidelines and keep safe while we are both waiting for our second covid vaccine. 

    Have a lovely week my dear Jolamine. Thank you for taking the time to reply to my message. You are always prompt in answering my message, I’m not. Sorry.   

    Best wishes and Big hugs. 

    LL2011

     

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    Hi Lagerlime,

    I am delighted to hear that you and your friend managed to walk 4 miles in the lovely weather yesterday. It is so good when you begin to get back to normal routine. Unfortunately, we had a rather upsetting weekend when my best friend lost her husband due to long Covid – so sad.

    I am glad to hear that you are looking at some of the more reputable cancer sites. Cancer diagnosis, treatments and after care have all improved tremendously in the past few years. My Mum was diagnosed with primary breast cancer 35 years ago. She had this for 12 years before she was diagnosed with metastasis in brain, bones, liver and lungs. When I look back and compare the treatment I’ve had, I realise just how far we have advanced.

    Diagnosis was very basic and her breast cancer was never broken down into type or grade. She had a mastectomy, followed by radiotherapy. Her post-surgery scarring was not a pretty sight. She had some terrible burns from her radiotherapy and she never had a breast care nurse to contact at any time. Her after care was non-existent and it wasn’t until her pain became unbearable, that we discovered her secondary cancer. There was no choice of prosthesis, bras, post-surgical clothing, etc. Sometimes, we just don’t realise how lucky we are now to have all of these things in place.

    You are fortunate that you don’t have a sweet tooth – this has always been one of my downfalls! As you say, you need a well-balanced diet to live a healthy life, so it’s all a case of balance. Maybe one day scientists will be able to warn us from birth if we have genetic failings that could lead to future health problems, but. At the moment, it is still a lottery and our long term outcomes don’t always show those of us who live a clean life and have a healthy diet to have the best of health.

    I am so glad to hear that you got some strength from how I’ve dealt with my health issues. I see no reason why you cannot live way past your 5 years of treatment. Having a positive attitude that this will be the case, can add many years to your life. You will find that surrounding yourself by positive people can be a big help too – you don’t need negative people in your life.

    Much as we would love to see some sun this year, I fear that we will be staying in the UK. It still seems as if there might be a need to quarantine in a hotel upon return and, this could be more costly than the holiday abroad. With so many people staying in the UK again, no doubt prices will be higher than ever.

    As I’ve said before, there is never any hurry to reply to me. I try to reply as quick as I can, because I might otherwise overlook some replies. Here’s hoping that the good spell of weather continues this week and you can get out for more walks. I managed to get some flower seeds planted on Saturday, so my greenhouse is pretty full at the moment.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Hi Jolamine,

    Hope all is well with you and have a good weekend. 

    So sorry to hear about your “upsetting weekend” last week when your best friend lost her husband due to covid. This is what we are discussing about in our previous letters. When it’s your time we cannot alter the circumstances. I know how she feel right now. I hope your friend will  start to move on with her life without her beloved husband. So sorry for her loss. 

    Before covid-19 back in 2018, my 2 best friends lost their husbands in just 3 months gap. One of them is the one with me walking last Sunday. Her husband had oesophageal cancer. Because of his age 86 (they have many years age gap) his treatment offered was radiotherapy not chemo. After a couple of months after the therapy he died of side effect of the radiation. The soft tissue of his lungs has been damage that made his lungs shrunk and that cause of his death.  My other best friend the husband died of his long illness of diabetes and he died of complication. I feel sorry for my friends and I know the feelings because I’ve been through that situation before so as much as I can I gave them my full support. 

    I am really sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis and treatment which in completely far behind of what we’ve experience with our recent treatment. When I went back to the breast clinic to see my doctor after the biopsy, after a short briefing expalining that I have breast cancer and offered treatment of lumpectomy and radiotherapy, the nurse handed me a lot of brochures to read. 

    1. A folder - Primary breast cancer information pack. Inside of it are; a) About breast cancer, b)Your diagnosis, c)Having treatment, d)Wellbeing and Practical Issues.. e) NHS Breast Screening... Then I’ve got individual brochures such as... 

    2. Your breast Clinic Appointment..  3. Your Operation and Recovery... 4. Reducing the Risk of Lymphoedema... 5. Tamoxifen... 6. MacMillan- Holistic Needs Assissment... 7. NHS Nuclear Medicine Scan...  and finally number 8. Finishing Your Radiotherapy Treatment.. plus I got 2 calling cards from breast clinic and Macmillan with the nurse’s name on it, just in case I need to speak to them they are there for me. So much information that before my breast operation I am already aware the ups and downs of having cancer and treatment. 

    All are very well organised and all treatment and after care all improved tremendously. Since my diagnosed I’ve met a lot of people, they are all lovely and very helpful and put you at ease when you are a bit nervous. We are indeed fortunate that we are well look after by the NHS staffs compared to your mum’s time when after care does not exist. So sad. 

    I spoke to my oncologist on Friday a phone call appointment, she asked how I get on after 5 weeks I finished the 5 sessions of radiotherapy. Because the skin on my breast started to settled and everything with me is fine, I’m okay with Tamoxifen, she discharged me from the Radiographer/Oncology department in hospital and she will inform my surgeon in breast clinic that I’m okay, so they can arrange me a mammogram later this year. Then if any problem arises in the future concerning with my recent treatment,  I will contact my GP not the hospital. If it is serious that needs medical attention, my GP will refer me to the hospital straightaway. 

    I know you support a lot of cancer patients here in this forum and now I understand why I will get a prompt reply from you. Thank you, very much appreciated! It is always good to help other patients and give them hope and encouragement especially those newly diagnosed with cancer.  My treatment are all done and my emotion started to go back to normal and start planning what to do in the future but it’s not 100% that I am totally healed and cancer free. That’s why I said previously that I wish I can live a bit longer or beyond my 5 years of Tamoxifen because I have underlying health issues. Thinking positive and living a balance healthy life is what I am aiming right now and that possibly help with my full recovery. 

    I was not able to walk today as the weather did not permit. Very windy and cold here since yesterday with drizzle scattered all over the places. But I manage to walk 3 x during the week days. 

    This is all for now. Take care and keep safe. 

    LL2011

     

     

     

     

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    Hi Lagerlime,

    You are so right. Many of us worry about a cancer diagnosis, yet we are often taken by something totally unrelated. Unfortunately my friend has to wait for a death certificate until after a post-mortem is carried out. This is scheduled for 15th April, so it looks as if we’ll have a month to wait until the funeral. I am so sorry to hear about your two best friends losing their husbands so soon after one another. The situation throughout the past year can’t have helped them in trying to move on. Having been through the same situation yourself, I’m sure that you’re a great support to both of them.

    Yes it’s amazing the difference in treatment nowadays. My poor mum was never given any details other than that she had breast cancer – no mention of grade, type, BRCA status, etc. She was given no information leaflets. There was no internet to look at. She had a mastectomy, then radiotherapy, which burned her badly. There was no aftercare after that. We really are fortunate that we are fighting our battles, when there is so much more information and support.

    I’m glad to hear that your skin is settling down now. It sounds as if your oncologist is quite happy with the way you are doing, but it’s reassuring that she is referring you for a mammogram later in the year. It is great to know that your emotions are gradually getting back to being more normal. I don’t expect that you’ll ever feel 100% the same, as a cancer diagnosis changes us all. Despite your other health problems, there is no reason why you won’t live way past the five years that you’re taking Tamoxifen. Think positive. You can and you will live longer than this.

    You’ve done well to get out for a walk 3 times this week. The weather here over the weekend has not been encouraging to getting outside. We have had high winds and heavy rain. Still, it is forecast to be much better next week, so here’s hoping.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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    Hi Lagerlime,

    You are so right. Many of us worry about a cancer diagnosis, yet we are often taken by something totally unrelated. Unfortunately my friend has to wait for a death certificate until after a post-mortem is carried out. This is scheduled for 15th April, so it looks as if we’ll have a month to wait until the funeral. I am so sorry to hear about your two best friends losing their husbands so soon after one another. The situation throughout the past year can’t have helped them in trying to move on. Having been through the same situation yourself, I’m sure that you’re a great support to both of them.

    Yes it’s amazing the difference in treatment nowadays. My poor mum was never given any details other than that she had breast cancer – no mention of grade, type, BRCA status, etc. She was given no information leaflets. There was no internet to look at. She had a mastectomy, then radiotherapy, which burned her badly. There was no aftercare after that. We really are fortunate that we are fighting our battles, when there is so much more information and support.

    I’m glad to hear that your skin is settling down now. It sounds as if your oncologist is quite happy with the way you are doing, but it’s reassuring that she is referring you for a mammogram later in the year. It is great to know that your emotions are gradually getting back to being more normal. I don’t expect that you’ll ever feel 100% the same, as a cancer diagnosis changes us all. Despite your other health problems, there is no reason why you won’t live way past the five years that you’re taking Tamoxifen. Think positive. You can and you will live longer than this.

    You’ve done well to get out for a walk 3 times this week. The weather here over the weekend has not been encouraging to getting outside. We have had high winds and heavy rain. Still, it is forecast to be much better next week, so here’s hoping.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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