Hi Laura 

so sorry

It's tough to go through 

I'm 4 years down the line 

All I can say is stays off google 

You shouldn't torture yourself with worst cast scenarios it really doesn't help 

I know how unreal it all seems and it's the waiting which drives us all crazy 

I can honestly say I've never had a days illness 

mine was picked up on a routine mammogram 

lots of biopsy's I had a big area of DCIS 

and a tiny ductal invasion 

this is not a death sentence I had to have a mastectomy due to the DCIS I had reconstruction straight away 

home the next day and at my grandsons birthday party 6 days later with my drains pinned up under my blouse 

I've had dark days people say oh you are so strong I'm really not 

there is no choice but to get on with it 

I didn't have any other treatment except some

bone strengthening infusion every 6 months for 3 years 

The pandemic must be making it more difficult 

if you would like any more info I'm here 

chin up you will get through it 

xx Joan xx

Hi Laura,

I'm so sorry. I was thinking about you. I can't give you any advice as I haven't got my diagnosis yet. 

I can say try not to think of worst case scenarios and don't Google but it's exactly what I keep doing. It's been helping me to talk to friends and family and try to stay occupied.

Good luck!

Hi Laura

How are you doing? So so sorry for your diagnosis. I'm a little bit ahead of you but am happy to chat whenever and answer any questions you have. I completely understand where you are coming from and how you are feeling. I think I looked at this forum 24/7 for answers and reassurance but what you have to know is you are in the best possible hands now and have taken the biggest step going and getting checked.

I'm just over 3 weeks after a mastectomy and all lymph node removal. I'm recovering well and have found my arm movement is better than they said it would be. I see my oncologist next week and will get my treatment plan in place. I currently have panic attacks waiting to know what will happen but as soon as the plan is in place I'll have something to focus on. If you can try and  ask questions and record the appointment conversations you have if they allow it. 
 

What I have found that worked for me is talking about how I feel, to my partner to my friends and family. Be honest and say if you don't feel ok, but also say when you do feel good and relish in those positive times. I am a very closed, private person but not any more. You mentioned you have health anxiety, I would speak to your breast care nurse and consultant and let them know and see if they can call you as soon as any results come back to save you waiting longer. I believe the waiting game is one of the parts of this. So be kind to yourself and look after you. 
 

Best of luck and please stay in touch to how you get on. 
 

Luce xx