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Stage 4 lung cancer Diagnosis for my Mum

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My Mum has just been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. She has a 4cm tumor in her left lung which has  spread to her lymph nodes and lung fluid. We have an oncology appointment next week and she is taking steroids and anti sickness tablets to help her eat. She has lost 3 stone and this is what initially caused her to get a blood test which eventually got to the lung cancer diagnosis. 
 

I feel distraught, all over the place. I am better when I am with her and when I am not I am crying all the time. Trying to give her the very best days she can and she is better since being able to eat. I think I would feel better if I knew roughly how long she had. Does anyone think that oncology will tell us an approximate time frame?

 

Thank you to anyone who replies.

Faye x

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    Hi Faye, 

     

    Sorry to read your post.  My Mum, 82, was diagnosed yesterday - she is also Stage 4 though believes she is Stage 3. Do I tell her?  Not sure, thinking maybe I should just encourage her to phone the nurses and ask some more questions.

     

    They are not offering any treatment for her, saying she could not tolerate it and would diminsh her quality of life.  I was wondering/hoping  really - does anyone have experience of any therapy which might help her breathing?

     

    I did Google, though wish I had not.  But with no treatment on offer i am just looking for best quality of life.  All help gratefully received.

     

    PS I posted on your post, not to hijack you, but to make sure we can find each other.  I hope that's OK xxx

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    hi im sorry about your mum my mum too has been diagnosed with stage 4 andme too havenot told her the stage would not help her it would not do her good.,  my mum, is awaiting a meet with oncologist but she is not very fit im hoping thjey offer her xx how is your mum doing why do they no offer her any treatment xx breathing is hard to see try zappain regularly apparently it works as good as oromorph and can help the breathing if taken regularly just getting my mum, to take it but she worries she will get addicted bless her but she is trying it and she says it makes the pain a little better so she is going with it at the mo xx

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    Since Mum has been on the steroids she is perking up as she cant eat which means more energy, but very frail as she lost so much weight. We are seeing Oncology tomorrow to find out what treatment she can have if any. The worrying part is the malignant pleural effusion which has shown cancer cells in her lung fluid. I guess tomorrow we will have some more information. 

     

    We just have to take each day as it comes which is hard as humans do like to predictability x

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  • Offline in reply to home123

    Since Mum has been on the steroids she is perking up as she cant eat which means more energy, but very frail as she lost so much weight. We are seeing Oncology tomorrow to find out what treatment she can have if any. The worrying part is the malignant pleural effusion which has shown cancer cells in her lung fluid. I guess tomorrow we will have some more information. 

     

    We just have to take each day as it comes which is hard as humans do like to predictability x

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