Hi Cara 

Dont blame yourself....really xxx 

If the white area you spotted on your Mum's X-ray is the shadow which has now showed up on the X-ray your GP arranged, you aren't a doctor or cancer specialist...so how could you know whether or not the shadow was cause for alarm, especially when you put your trust in a chiropractor. 
 

I think anyone in your position would've done the same...seeing the white mark on the X-ray may have triggered some curiosity....but, as the chiropractor did not mention anything about it, would have thought it was nothing of note. 

The last thing you need right now is you giving yourself a hard time xx You've already got a lot to deal with, with your mum going through this. So, please...stop blaming yourself. As I say, anyone in your position who isn't medically qualified would have done the same. 
 

I also had a parent with lung cancer and so, if it was me...I think I would contact the chiropractor. They aren't cancer specialists...but one of the reasons why a chiropractor does xrays is to rule out other causes. I think I would contact them, my motivation being by my personal situation (parent who we lost due to cancer) and not wanting anyone else to go through it. I have no idea how it works but I think I'd start off by asking why they did a chest X-ray, if they are trained to spot anything of concern on the results and if they could have a look at your mum's X-ray again and provide comments. 
 

I'm not sure what the answer back will be....maybe the chiropractor may say he or she isn't trained to spot cancer on xrays. Also...it might be that the shadow on the X-ray your chiropractor did was unrelated to the shadow that's showed up now. I would ask the questions, even if just to put that side of things to bed. 
 

Let me know how you are doing xx 

Hi

thanks for the reply I felt a little better writing this post for some reason last night.

The chiropractor did the X-ray to check our spine and necks before he would do adjustments. I remember him mentioning the word mri scan when he was looking at my mums scan but I'm sure he was talking about a curve in her neck (is this going to be something about the cancer as spread there I don't know he never mentioned any word like cancer) because he had the top half the the xrays up on the screen. 
 

I will see if I can arrange to see my mums X-ray but I don't think they will let me without her being with me.

ive emailed them asking how long they keep the xrays for and they said for 8 years.

do I say my mum has lung cancer and I want to see if she had it back then? 
 

My sisters also know I seen this scan they are also saying why didn't u take her to the doctors 

im pretty sure I told my eldest about what I seen too on a night out walking and she didn't think to tell me get her checked out

I'm so mad at myself and feeling bad

 when my mum came out of there she even said *** that didn't look good I should of knew to get her in at the doctors then so I bet she's feeling like me 

do you think I should have a chat about this with her I don't want her feeling worse then she already does I want her to feel normal and not someone who's got cancer? 
 

Hey dont blame yourself it seems to me you did all you could we trust the medical profession to look after us but ive learned cancer all thoe so common its notoriously difficult to diagnose i lost my partner to it .the drs misdiagnosed it thought it was something else even pet scans can be difficult .we all have nodes in our lungs bumps on our livers kidneys etc etc .ciropracters arnt trained like doctors there more skeletal so i doupt he would be qualified to diagnose . Sounds to me you went along with the specialists isnt that what we all do we arnt drs or onclygists so dont get trapped by this what if hindsight dosnt exsist its just another word for i could kick myself like fake self guilt so try not to blame yourself my partner had a massive stroke 4 days after first chemo died in two days with sepsis i blamed myself for not saving her felt terrible false!!! Guilt i realise now goodness if drs couldnt save her and there own familys for that matter how could i but i had a dam good go so dont blame yourself at all you did exactly what we all do trust the experts but flipping cancer can hide it can be just a few cells then bang it can go mad and catch everyone out liz my partner had two types .its it dam sneaky so dont blame yourself blame the cancer .best wishs .paul

Sorry to hear your loss this is just ******

my mums just had a letter for her brain scan fingers crossed it's not gone there because I know she wouldn't cope well about it she will give up x

Feeling sick but I need to be strong xx 

thanks for all the replie.

Being on here I feel it's helping me so thanks again xx 

Hi Cara 

Glad you feel better using this forum. Please do keep posting. 
 

Just wanted to tell you something before I nip off to bed. My parent had ALL the symptoms of lung cancer. The GP dismissed this because he said the chances of lung cancer being present in a non-smoker were so low, it just could not be anything sinister. Even though we knew the symptoms we were observing were serious....we did not connect the dots. We trusted the GP. None of us are medically qualified and wouldn't have known ourselves that her symptoms were cancer. You wouldn't blame me for not recognising that my parent had cancer and not getting her to hospital....and so don't blame yourself for your situation (which is the same...you aren't qualified to read an X-ray....that takes years of medical training and practise to do that). 
 

I would certainly ask some questions of the chiropractor...see what they have to say. As I say...even if this was to put this side of things to bed. I'd just tell them everything - that when you saw your Mum's X-ray in their office, you were curious about the shadow that appeared on the results and, now that she has been diagnosed with cancer of the lung, you wish to know if the white shadow was cancer and if the chiropractor was qualified/professional obliged to spot this. See what they come back with. If they say they can only provide comments to your Mum, tell them that's fine (your mum can just inform you). 

If I may say so...it just is not fair for your sisters to have said that. If they say that again, tell them that you are not qualified to read xrays and assumed (as anyone would) that if it was something of note, the chiropractor would have flagged this (thru didn't). It's a pretty horrid thing to say to you, tbh. Out of order. 
 

You were not to blame for anything. If you're not sure, maybe don't say anything to your Mum about the discussion with the chiropractor until you've had a response back. Then you can review again. 
 

take care and hope to hear from you again xx 

Thank you so much! 
I had my first nights sleep without crying myself to sleep.

fingers cross her brain scan goes ok.

my mum is very quite. But I don't want to keep asking her if she's ok and tips how I can try and help her? 
 

I don't want her sitting at home doing nothing before she got told she was always out and about.

maybe she's still processing it x

thank you xx

Nope I thought was having a good day but my mums brain scan is on my mind. I'm bricking it for her I'm fearing the worse and them saying she's not got long.

will she be eating another week for the results? 

Still struggling to shake this wishing i got her checked over earlier :( 

I just want all this testing over and done with so I know where my mums at and getting treatment but then I don't want her feeling ill of the treatment 

cancer is ***!

it's driving me crazy. 
 

i went to see my mum today we didn't talk about the cancer because I want her feel well. We had our normal laughs and did abit of food shopping but her coughing is bad. Soon as she starts moving about it get worse

She only turned 63 on the 10th feb. :( 

Right I guess I best wipe my tears away take deep breaths and try and get some sleep and stop wasting precious time and start being strong for my mum.

GOODNIGHT X