Hi Maryln, I was Her2 positive so they said I will benefit from that.im not looking forward to the chemo either.did you have herceptin injected?

Thank you.ts the kids that make us strong. I dont think I would have coped if I never had my little girl. But good luck with all your treatments to x

Hiya, I was told I was tripple negative and grade3. Yes i have to have the 3 treatments.not sure on what type of chemo I will need.

Nit sure I will cope.after you see your oncologist,when do you start chemo?

Your stronger than you think....I thought I would crumble...but you don't...you will certainly have your horrible days but there will be lighter days too....

I began chemo a week after I saw my onco, they don't hang around! You will also have a pre chemo assessment talk, I had mine the day before......

you can and will get through this....xx

Thank you Maryln, my first appointment with my oncologist is on 18th.so for now I can relax few weekends with gin n tonic x

Thank you very much

Before you know it you will have a treatment plan and know which direction your treatment will take .

It is as you said a nightmare of a psychological battle . It is hard trying to hold it together and be strong for everyone around you.

There is a lot of wonderful support here from some lovely ladies who were once where we are and are no through the other side.

Wishing you the best of luck with your treatments.

i hope that you get answers to all your questions both from us ladies here and your oncology team.

Thinking of you

Take care xxx

Hi sorry to hear you are starting this journey but like all the ladies have already said it is normal to feel overwhelmed at the beginning. I was diagnosed in April with eostrogen positive bc. Had mastectomy and lymph node removal as had spread. This was in April and then chemo beginning of July and rang thaw bell on my last session yesterday. Radio and five years on hormone tablets left x I have four children 19,17,15 and 11 at the time. Kept putting it off as every appointment threw something up - another biopsy or a new result. The older three went snooping and found letters and kept it to themselves for a while then sent me a text from uni and the boys play football for an academy and live away and texted me after a game. Telling our youngest was the worst but I kept it simple and I told him I would never lie but sometimes I may not know the answer. But that they all needed to know I was going to fight it with all I had and more. The next day he said mom I believe you are going to fight this and apart from a few outbreaks at school he has been brilliant and so have the rest x 

what im trying to say hun is it’s perfectky normal to feel like you do. I didn’t think I could do the chemo when I was in cycle three but I took each day at a time and when I had my bad low days I thought that’s ok I’m allowed let’s see what tomorrow brings. I came on here vented to some lovely ladies x we are always here for you Hun x try and stay strong but allow yourself to cry to question to vent xx 

Hi Mejules,

Congratulations on finishing your chemo! Bet you're relieved that's over.  

That's me told my kids, my youngest was upset but we reassured her as best we could and she seems ok today. Was visiting my son, who's away at uni, today and told him. He struggles a bit with anxiety so we had a big long chat and he seems ok but definitely going to have to check in on him regularly. But seeing their reactions and how much they need it to be true that I'll beat this and be ok has helped me snap out of the spiral down I was feeling. I'm still terrified of spread and still have the waves of anxiety but just trying to focus on surgery next week and hoping and praying that the results from that are good. 

Im glad your kids are seeing you come through the other side.xxx

I was diagnosed with triple negative last January, I also have young children. Explaining to them was hard but they were very resilient and took each day as it came. I also spoke to they're schools and explained the situation, they were brilliant, and were there for the children when they needed someone to talk to. I had surgery chemotherapy and radiotherapy last year, it is a lot to process, There will be hard times but you will get through it, it's like a rollercoaster you have to ride, we're all here with you, you can do this!! I was an emotional mess a lot of days, but fighting was my only option. I wish you all the luck in the world xx you've got this xx