Hi there ..

I know this sounds harsh, but if you just keep picturing the future, your missing the "now" you have him now .. and you know you can do so much together in that time ... make memories to last a life time ..

None of us with cancer knows if well be here next month , next year or longer .. we all live under it's shadow .. but I know my journey with cancer, has made me aprieciate every day .. I try to make as many memories as possible... you can find out if theres something he still wants to do .. some place to see .. you can sit and ask him about his childhood and life .. how he felt when you were born .. 

My amazing mum, called me one Monday morning... about comming up mine the next day .. the last thing she said was see ya tomorrow love .... at 5.20 that afternoon she was gone .. a massive heart attack and had no chance to even say those things like I was so proud to be her daughter... or hug her one more time .I'd lost both my parents in my 30s .... what I'd have given for one more day .. even one hour ... you have what l never had .. a bit of time .. to leave nothing unsaid .. he helped you and watched you grow from a baby to a man .. 

Now it's time for you to help him .. hold his hand .. walk this journey making every day count .. none of us cancer or healthy don't know if we have tomorrow.. so I'm sending a vertual hug... this will be so hard .. but if you do this, you'll look back one day and be proud you did...  Chrissie xx

I’m so sorry about your dad. 

[@Chriss]‍ is is right, it’s sll about making memories for all of you. Enjoy and treasure the time you have left together. 

None of us know when our time on this earth is up, or what life will throw at us. - see my profile for evidence of that

But with love and laughter you can make your dad’s time here even more valued. 

Sending you prayers for strength to cope with this in the best way you can x 

Hi Mark, 

i know exactly how you feel because I was with my father when he was given that exact same diagnosis.  In my dad's case, he only lasted a few months and it was very hard for all of us. The best thing you can do is to keep talking to your dad and know what he wants. He will get the pain relief he needs when the time comes, so you don't need to worry about that but there will be other challenges.. I spent the best time I ever had with my dad during those last weeks, I found out more about him and his early life than I had ever known as we had never had the time to really talk while getting on with life.

What you don't know now and what I didn't know then, but do now, is that the worst part of having cancer is dealing with loved ones' reactions. I've just had a mastectomy and feel fine but my kids were so stressed it made it harder for me. 

Let your dad know that he doesn't have to worry about the rest of the family, it will make things easier for him. 

Good luck, stay strong and you will cope!

Christine

Thankyou for reply its has taken me time to come to terms with things we are taking everything one day at a time x

Thankyou for replies it has taken time to put myself in right frame of mind we are all taking everything one day at a time as family xx

My Dad passed away in the early hours this morning in a local hospice he passed peacefully cancer is an evil horrible disease he only survived 9 weeks from diagnosis he never stood a chance be at rest now dad you brave beautiful man I will miss you every single day for the rest of my days 

I'm so sorry for your loss Mark.

My thoughts are with you at this time.

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hey, so sorry to read about your loss, i think you honesty touched me. I accidentlly came on this page whilst looking up symptoms, i dont know you or never met your dad but i was in tears after reading your post. I hope in the future things less painful for you, your dad was a lucky man to have such a caring person in is life.My deepest sympathies to you and your family.

Thankyou for your kind words it means a lot to me I just have to keep going and be strong for my dad I know that's what he would of wanted x