Newly diagnosed with stage 1 breast cancer

hi 

anyone out there ? I feel so alone right now 

diagnosed last week with stage 1 BC after routine mammogram- how can I feel so well yet have this in me ? 

I realise stage 1 is early, I am lucky etc etc but right now I don’t feel it

Family being ultra positive whilst I am falling apart inside 

so feel like I can’t scream and cry like I want to!

anyone else feel like this 

  • Oh no that’s crap news X14 - but let’s try and look on positives thank god you had the test - it isn’t available to many and now you have an even better chance of beating this quickly.

    we all have our worst fears - jackie’s is radio, mine was chemo and for many it’s the tablets but none of us have any choice but to carry on and get through the best we can chick ..

    its just the next step... at least that’s how I am trying to think about it 

    we are all here for you - rant as much as you need to we all know how you are feeling xxx 

  • Hi Jo

    how are you doing ? Xx

  • I was in the same position as you in 2017, I almost didn't attend my routine mammogram, thank goodness I did. I didn't have a clue I had a problem. All  was pre cancerous except for 3mm, I had two small ops then 3 weeks of radiotherapy. Had my first check up in March this year and so far so good. All this happened to me while my husband age 60 was in hospital dying. I went through hell but have come through it a different person. I am determined to get on with life and make the best of it, I promised my husband. Easy to say but worrying achieves nothing only wears you out.  Best wishes G.

  • Hi Esta , hi everyone

    My results were good. Clear margins , clear lymph nodes and the 5mm is gone . I was a bit surprised that they’ve suggested radio for me as the surgeon had initially said it was unlikely. Hormone therapy as well - which I’m dreading. 

    I have to wait to see the oncologist .its been 10 days and still no appointment. I’ve asked to be referred to a different hospital for the radio as it’s much easier for me to get to so I hope that doesn’t slow things down too much.

    So sorry to hear about your chemo x14. Everyone reacts differently and lots of people don’t find too bad. Hopefully  it won’t be too bad for you. 

    I'm doing well physically but still not sleeping. My best friend died of breast cancer (she was triple negative, 5cm  and diagnos3 at stage 2/3 so in very very different place to all of us) on 18th Sept . Her funeral is Monday . It was expected but has completely knocked me for six.

    Take care everybody 

    big hugs 

    love Jo 

  • Hi,

    Thats Brilliant news!! I think it’s the Oncologist that seems to advise more what is needed than the surgeon,because my Surgeon said 15 Radiotherapy sessions but Oncologist wants me to have 20,the last 5 being a targeted blast at where tumour was.... then the dreaded tablets... I’ve got a 40 minutes journey each way for my Radiotherapy!!

    Take care Hun it’s gone xxx

  • So sorry to hear this Jo that’s so sad and to close to home for all of us - but we are lucky that’s what I keep thinking as it cups be so much worse for all us 

    tablets I’m not even thinking about - everything has side effects - ever looked at a packet of aspirin ! - so I am not even reading into them as think youthem wait for the side effects to happen - that’s how I am coping anyhow 

    my letter for oncologistcame really quickly after results but still a month away - waiting is definitely the worst 

     lots of love and will be thinking of you on Monday xc

  • How are you X14 ?? 
    hows everyone else doing ?

     

  • Hi Esta, all, 

    Thanks for rolling the ball again with the chat, I would love hearing how everyone is doing. I am still in limbo waiting for Oncotype but starred Tamoxifen few weeks ago. I am booked to start Radiotherapy next week if the test is ok.

    I still have disrupted nights but not to blamw the medicines but the anxiety waiting for a definite plan. Health wise id I don't move much on a day my legs get sore and with some bruces . Excersing seems veey important but mood is hard to keep well.

    I found and visited Maggie Centre and found quite a few things to help excersing also to relieve my mind for a bit. 

    Please let us know everyone how are you doing.

    Thinking of you, healing hugs to all xxx

     

  • Hi

    im ok thank you. Spoke to my nurse this morning as still not had an oncologist appointment come through. It’s been two weeks since she requested it. She said today no appointments had been mad because the secretary was off. That’s a poor excuse really. I’ve got a hol booked on the 18th Nov so hoping nothing clashes. 

     

    I also spoke to her as I’ve got a swallow throat on one side which is worrying and keep thinking it’s that Hodgkin lymphoma. I keep feeling a lump in my throat too when I swallow and aching on my neck. Went to the gp but he’s wasn’t much use as he felt my throat once and looked baffled. He said it was viral and didn’t prescribe me anything. I mentioned it to nurse and she thinks the same but it’s so worrying as it’s not normal. She’s speaking to the head nurse then ringing me back later but thinknit will just go. I have this horrible feeling that it’s somewhere else. Had a horrible dream last night to which as you can imagine involved the worst, 

     

    Feeling very anxious about the chemo side and the side effects especially loosing out on time with my 7 month old. 

    Feel like I’m in limbo at the mo but then dreading the next step xxx