Mastectomy

Hi, I'm a newbie on here. I have never posted before. I'm 54 and have breast cancer. I have had a lumpectomy, and excision now I'm facing a mastectomy which will happen in a little over a week. I'm also menopausal, and going through a divorce. I'm scared and feeling alone.im having a hard time emotionally processing the loss of a breast. I dont know how to move forward. I am not a good candidate for reconstruction because too much was removed during the excision and it would take 3 surgeries to reconstruct. How do I get past the feeling of the wind being knocked out of me every time I start to think about it which seems to be constantly.

Offline Marlyn over 6 years ago

Hello love,
sorry you find yourself on here. There are lots of us breast lasses on here....I had a lumpectomy, chemo, now on rads......I know others will be along as some point....
A cancer diagnosis is hard enough to come to terms with let alone loosing a breast...what sort of support do you have at home? What's your breast nurse like? I've never heard from mine....other than to tell me I need chemotherapy!
Does your cancer unit offer support? Where you can meet other ladies in your position?
There will always be support on here.....we prop each other up.....also....take a look on a thread called...... the good and the bad........it's like a drop in centre....
take care...I'm always popping in and out of the forum .....xxxxx
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Offline Thebaglady over 6 years ago in reply to Marlyn

I'm still living with the soon to be ex, he says he will get me through this but I can barely get him out of the house to work much less anything else. I'm feeling lost. I'm away from my family and unable to move home right now due to finances.
My cancer nurse is sweet but not someone I can unburden to. She barely looks old enough to have finished school and I definitely get the keep your client calm attitude. I want to scream, cry and throw things! I'm angry.

Thanks for responding, I do appreciate the welcome.
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Offline Marlyn over 6 years ago in reply to Thebaglady

Yes, my breast nurse is barely out of nappies too. I do understand the anger, especially when I was told I needed chemotherapy.....so is your soon to be ex more of a hinderence? I can imagine it's doubly difficult without a good support system....
let this forum be your safe place, you can say what you want, there will be no judgements here, we've all been there at one time or another.....sometimes it's a relief to get it all down in writing.....warts an all......xxxxx
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