Hi there

Yes it is a shock, we dont think we will be the ones that get cancer. Please try and talk to someone, I found out this week that i have breast cancer and to be honest it has helped to talk to my family. We have all cried together but told them we must talk to each other.

What treatment is planned for you? 

Hi thank you for getting back to me im so sorry i told family yester i left it  i feel like i need to do this on my oen as im not very independent and rely on family i feel like this make me stronger hopefully what about you what treatment you going to have 

Well hopefully there nothing else what im afraid off if in the end i need cemo as i no that means you cant have children what stage is yours if you dont mi d me asking 

Hi

I have 2 areas , 1 is group one and the other is a grade 1. I can see you have a stage 1, have they discussed treatment with you yet?

Oh they want to do lumpectomy and radiotherapy for now 

Hi 

Sounds as if we are having similar treatment unless my MRI shows anything else, lets cross our fingers and be positive now. We are strong people and will get through this . Keep talking and get as much support as you can.

Hi there,

So sorry about your diagnosis.

But the first thing I really want to say to you is that none of how you're acting is bad.  Please do not go down the line of beating yourself up for your behaviour when you are going through a shock like this.

Obviously it's going to be difficult, unbelievably so, for your husband, but I can't stress enough how much you need that support.  Also, thankfully, stage 1a has a fantastic cure rate.  It can be really hard to focus on the positive statistics when faced with the shock of the word cancer, but I know countless women whose cancer was caught at stage 1 and 2 and who are still here and healthy literally decades later.

It might take some thinking outside the box but finding a way to discuss it with your husband could actually allay the fears he's likely to have building in his head.  And I totally understand how hard it is to tell family, my mum has beaten breast cancer twice but mine wasn't diagnosed until the incurable stage so it was gutting having to tell her, but again I cannot stress enough how much you need the support.

Also, it is best to have someone at appointments, even if just a friend or colleague because you need the two sets of ears.

Your selflessness is obvious and very commendable but cancer doesn't care about those qualities, you will need to ensure you have support from somewhere.
 

Big hugs, LJxx  (p.s. NO beating yourself up!)