Oh bless you, what a horrible time. When I was diagnosed just before Christmas my world fell apart...then I found this forum and everyone is lovely on here..so much comforting advice...

as soon as you get your treatment plan you will settle...I promise...it's all very daunting right now but somehow you get through it...

im always popping in and out of the forum and keep an eye out for you...xxxxx

So sorry you're going through this. It's a scary time and your reaction is perfectly normal.

I was diagnosed 15 months ago, had treatment and am now cured.

I agree that once you have your treatment plan you will take it all in your stride, get the gloves on like Chrissie said and kick its *** like many of us have done

You will get a lot of support on this forum and we're here for you to scream and shout when you feel like it.

Sending hugs - Irene x

Thanks so much x

OMG Chriss, either you read people very well or I’m very transparent. I changed careers completely 7 years ago and started my own B and B which is a success and because my son always got sacked I helped him set up his own business (he can’t sack himself when he screws up). Before that I had a big job running teams of sales people etc so in control is definitely how you would describe me. You’re so right that having no control of this is really tough but I guess I will have my own decisions to make about treatment. Having said that I already know that is will do whatever gives me the best chance of long term survival with or without a boob. 

Its 21 hours since I was told and it seems a whole lot longer 

thanks for all the supportive words x

Your welcome ...

Here any time you want a chat ... just a little light note after all the heavy stuff .. my granddaughter (5 at the time)   in pic who's my best buddy ever ... knew nanny was very poorly and the Drs were going to TRY to make me better ... she was with me all the way .. well about a month or two after my masectomy she stayed with us .. that evening she was on my lap watching t.v and I was shuffling my falsey to be more comfortable .. well like a flash shed turned and pulled my tee shirt away to look what l was doing .. well she yelled   ...  (my god nanny, how are you going to feed babies now!!!   ) laughed my socks off .. still makes me chuckle ... sorry for repeating my much used story ..

I was scared to look the first time at the scar where my boob used to be ... but the only thought in my head as l looked down was.. it's a small price to pay to still be here ... you see its how you look at things ..  your toughness can be directed just where you need it .. though I've had a couple of "melt down" days .. but I've learned to get all those feelings out .. it's when you hold them in, it grows and becomes overwhelming... so scream/ yell / swear at anything you want to .. but when you feel really low don't look down at the ground, look up at the stars instead ... all those loved ones we've lost are looking down ...then get back up .. boxing gloves back on and back in the ring ..

I've got a tee shirt from the U S A it shows a woman with pink boxing gloves and it says .. cancer touched my boob... so I kicked it's *** ... you've had some of our amazing lasses on here to support you ... we KNOW how scary it is .. if there's any questions your bound to come across, someone on here will know how to answer it .. so glad your joined our little chat room .,.

You got this ...  chrissie xx