Diagnosed

Hey, 

So...I posted on here last week about having a biopsy then getting called in to see the consultant....turns out what he thought was Fibroadenoma turns out it’s Grade 2 breast cancer...safe to say I feel numb. I couldn’t even cry when he told me, it doesn’t seem real. I’m only 29 and have to incredible little boys who are 2 and 4. 

I’m absolutely petrified about what’s going to happen...they mentioned further biopsy’s, scans, mammograms and MRI before they do treatment. 

 

  • Hi gemma ..

    So so sorry hunny your on the breast journey too ... there's lots of us breast lasses on here ... all different cancers and different treatments but we've all one thing in common .. kicking cancers butt ... I had a grade 3 and masectomy July 2017 ... and like your probly doing now all those "what ifs" creep in and it feels overwhelming. . It's even harder with little ones ...

    Well I took myself off and cried for what seemed an eternity... but once I'd finished and got it all out. . I stood up, got on a pair of vertual boxing gloves and got ready to kick cancers butt .. cancer wants us to crumble, lay down and never get back up ... yes it's a rollercoaster ride ... the scariest one you'll ever ride .. and you can't jump off ... being brave isn't about just fighting, it's about being scared witless and yet still getting in the ring and hitting it back every step ...

    I know you hear the sad story's ... but all of us that's joined along the way on "the good and bad" thread are still here .. take a look on there ... they are the most amazing breast friends you'll ever know ... and they talk about all sorts , not just cancer .. @Sandra123  started it, and it's gone from strength to stretch ..  you see I think when we stand together through the tough and good times, we scare cancer ... 

    So come on, get all those feelings out ... don't hold them in .. admit to loved ones your scared .. and they will get you through .. it's about sharing feelings ... it's about holding on together ... so I'll send you my old vertual boxing gloves ... there's always someone here to offer a shoulder to lean on .. @rilleyroo  @jbains @cournishpastie ... they have all been where you are now ... sending you a big hug .. Chrissie

  • Hi Gemma,

    Really sorry it wasn't better news, but we are all here to support you through this.  Where you find yourself just now is the hardest past, the waiting.  They will do further tests etc. before determining treatment, and it's hard when you just want to get on with getting rid of the cancer, but it's important to ensure they pick the best treatment for you and all the tests will help them do that.

    It's early days for you and your head must be spinning, so I'll leave it there just now.  But we are all here, if you want to vent, cry, rant, ask questions, whatever...

    LJx

  • Thank you ladies, still getting my head round it but I’m in work and all my colleagues have been incredible and so supportive. I’ve told them I want to keep everything as normal as possible and not to treat me any differently. I’ve got my MRI this Thursday and Mammogram and Ultrasound next Monday (my little boys birthday as well) 

    massive amount of love to you ladies, your incredible xxx

  • Hi Gemma

    i have just been diagnosed with the same and going through more test on practically the same days. Was also my daughters birthday last week when waiting on my biopsy results. It is awful but I was expecting the worst so now ready to put my gloves on! Chriss what an amazing and inspirational post, just what I needed, so thanks to you.

    i am so glad to be part of this supportive community, I have amazing friends and family but nobody really knows what you are going through until faced with it. Let’s get through these dark times together. 

     

    Marv

  • Hello Marv, 

    I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through the same :( it’s crazy, how old are you if you don’t mind me asking? Have they said anything else regarding your little invader? 

    Without a doubt, I’ve ready through so many incredible posts on here and it’s made it that some what easier. <3 

    Gemma x

  • Hi Gemma 

    i am 51 and have four kids between 16-25. Not much except they will treat it and get rid off it so that it doesn’t come back. I am really stressed about next round of tests on Thursday, the results come in the next again Tuesday. 

    Its weird to think of the impact it has in your life and those around you. My daughter is watching my very move and now I feel I am in limbo until my treatment plan is in place. 

    It must be very demanding on you coping with this and two little ones, I hope you are managing to get some rest.

    whenis your next set of tests or have you got a treatment plan in place

     

    Marv

  • Hello Marv,

    how are you feeling at the moment? 

    So glad you’ve got support around you, my husband keeps telling me to stop googling (I’m not I’m the forum) lol, 

    I feel exactly the same, I just want to know what treatment I’m going to be having and when.

    Have they said what breast cancer you have? 

    I’ve got Mammogram and Ultrsound/Core Biopsy Monday and then genetics testing on Wednesday. 

    My kids keep me going, they are so full of energy and demanding that in some way it helps as just keeps me constantly occupied. 

    Lots of love to you

    Gemma xxx

  • Hi Gemma

    How are things? 

    I have my heart scan and mri tomorrow then will be given a date for chemo to start to try and shrink the tumour before surgery.

    Still don’t know what type but to be honest I just want to focus on fighting this.

    was advised of my oncology dr - bizarre saying I have an oncology dr!! To wear a cold cap during chemo

    - will give it a bash.

    Hope the kids keeping your mind of things.

    Sending you hugs 

    xx