I've being diagnosed with oral cancer. I'm more worried about my family coping with it. I really just want to maybe scream + cry but have to keep everthing in for their sake. How do you deal with family + not break down?
Hello Einna, so sorry to hear your terrible news... id tell you to scream, cry do what you have too.... the thought of cancer to all of us here is frighting...its a long hard road but you will get through it we are all here for each other with lots of help and wee tips so between us all you will find the strength to fight this...im 2 years on from cancer of the tongue im doing good as a lot of others you will meet on this fourm so keep intouch and you know Einna your family will be so strong for you too...best wishes demc
its ok to scream cry then dust yourself down and think ok goingbto beat this it isn’t beating me postive mental attitude goes a long way
I am 23 weeks post radiotherapy for cancer if the tonsil h p v 16 + with spread to lymph nodes got the all clear after 35 radiotherapy and 2 chemotherapy. We are all different butbin a way the same .just 5 years of check ups to go.
i have a blog www.radioactiveraz.wordpress.com let your family read it my hubby made a contribution to it from his side . As it’s a blogbthe most recent entry is first so scroll down to bottom for the start
I can understand why you might feel that way but if you don't find some way of letting it out you WILL go insane. Here is a good place to vent those feelings, alone in the car in a layby works for some people but sooner or later we need to share our fears with someone.
If they care for you they will worry but this is part of the price we pay for loving and for being loved.
The first few weeks after being diagnosed are always weird. None of us react in the way we somehow expect to feel - especially when either the diagnosis or prognosis are stiil unclear. Some of us go into denial, some of us cry our hearts out 24/7 for weeks, some of us (including me) go emotionally numb and go through our tests, scans and treatments like unfeeling robots. There is no normal way to react as this is WAY outside being a normal situation. Our minds cope as best as we can.
Just act however feels natural to you but try to be mindful that our loved ones can feel shut out and ignored if we don't share how we feel with them.
You will be in shock after this diagnosis . Don't be so hard on yourself . Give yourself the time to take in the diagnosis . You will need a lot of support to get through the difficult journey you have ahead of you . But you and your family are in this together . It's Ok to share the load and worry about each other . Having cancer is horrible . But more and more people are now surviving it with a good quality of life .
I wish you and your family all the best for the future .
