We have just found out that a very close family friend, whose male & 75, but a very fit male till now, Still owns own business, gets up 5am, walks appox 10 miles a wk, not over weight, non smoker, very limited drinker (only at functions) & only went to doctors because his wife thought he may have had a slight stroke, no pain, minor symptoms as stated below, hes like a grandad to my 2 sons had a brain tumor, he then had an operation & more scans, I think docs said they removed 80%, only symptoms he has are; using wrong words, getting numbers mixed up, forgetting what he wants to say, pauses in between words, NO pain what so ever, he had op last WK, & went back for more results this WK, to be told he had grade 4 brain cancer, incurable & its rapidly growing (not sure if I've phrased that right,not sure if they mean tumor already coming back?) Next route has been discussed & it sounds like quite aggressive chemo everyday (again, not sure how correct everyday is due to upset whilst explaining to us) I dont mean to sound stupid,but I guess incurable means terminal, & chemo is just to help.prolong life, Does any 1 know what life expectancy we are talking here? I've seen lots on internet but dont know what sites to trust, I'm so sorry I'm typing an essay, I'm broken,I can't think straight, WHAT do I tell my sons age 10 & 14, some people are saying be honest & open, but I dont want my boys wondering/thinking if this day or that day is going to be his last,their doing so well in school, & 10yr old is so sensitive & a deep thinker, I so stuck on what to do, has anybody got any advice regarding both issues, A) The brain cancer as stated above & B) what & how to tell my boys. Once again, many apologies for typing so much, but honestly its kind of helped a little, its quite therapeutic. Regards, B
