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Hi my best friend told my today she had bone cancer,lung cancer and liver cancer . She didn't say what stages these were at only they could not cure them but treatable I was in total shock. I really didn't no what to day to her or how I can help. She's going back hospital aweek today to start a plan for treatment. 

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    What a sad situation.  Talk to your friend about what she would like you to do to help her.  And do it.  Listen to what she is saying; don't try to dismiss her fears.  At the same time remember she is still the friend you have known for some time even though she has cancer.   I guess I am saying stick with her and be ready to do what will help her or just make her realise you are going to be there for her so she can tell you if she needs help at any part of her journey through this.    Annie

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    Hi Carpenter,

    What horrible news :(

    I'm sure your friend would appreciate it if you ask her what you can do for her.  She may not know yet (very possible when she hasn't started treatment) or she may have some idea.  Once she knows what treatment she is going to have people on here will be able to give tips if need be.  But in the meantime just be there for her, as you clearly are being already.  She may well want you to keep things as normal as possible, our lives can very easily become all about the cancer and it's good to have people who can break us out of that.

    And, perhaps most importantly, look after yourself.  It is easy to forget about your own well being when helping loved ones, but it's important that you don't forget your own well being.

    Take care,

    LJx

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