Big hug on it’s way!  

There is a thread on here called the good and the bad, mainly us breast cancer lasses but a couple of others also drop by for a regular chat. Drop by if you’re in the area!

i’ve also tagged@Chriss, [@Cornishpastie]‍ [@Warriorqueen]‍ and [@Beachbabe]‍ and [@Sandra123]‍ We’ve all been where you are now altho most haven’t had chemo as far as I recall but we support each other, laugh at silly things and can offer help sometimes with practical stuff like bras for instance. 

Hi there ... more vertual hugs sent your way ... the one thing lots of us have found is it's easier to cope together ... like rilleyroo has said, wer just normal average lasses that have one thing in common ... kicking cancers butt ... you can have a vent, ask questions, in fact anything, and there will always be someone who knows just where your comming from ...

Wer all at different stages, and different treatments ... so your deffinatly not alone ... and everyone is welcome ... so know the place you are right now is the most scary ...

And I know you feel overwhelmed at the mo, but all that stuff you have going on in your life right now, will keep you really busy and trust me ... it's far better then having lots of time to think ... stay in the day, and don't look too far ahead ... take everything as and when it come up ...  you can do this... but all those scary feelings are normal , so be kind to your self ... another vertual hug ... can't get enough hugs .... Chrissie xx

Definitely help other people! I think a lot of what we worry about is ‘is the way I feel normal ?’  It’s normal for you who ever ‘you’ are so don’t worry!

Thank you again :)  Oh thank goodness I stumbled across this place.  I have really felt quite isolated.  I'm very much putting on brave face - I seem to be driving myself mad trying to not worry anyone.  I can't bear it when my mum looks upset or my husband cries so I'm being all chipper and over positive around them and then when I'm on my own (or on here) I fall apart a bit.  Anyway, no time to dwell this morning!  Off to Mums to get her dressed and fed then back to entertain my two.  It's going to be a long summer holidays!  I'm dreading what I might be told tomorrow but in another way it maybe will help when I find out what exactly needs to be done.  Thank you again ladies.  You are so kind and helpful.  Returning those much needed and appreciated virtual hugs back your way too!  x

Hi there ... that's what we do for each other ... it helps us get through one more day ... and I found , letting out all those feelings while on my own, made me feel ready for putting the boxing gloves on again .. and once I'd got my head around it, I could think a little straiter ... then others around you will calm down too, and you can all admit how scary this cancer is without crying all day, or holding it in till you burst ...

You will be welcome on any thread ... you can put feelings down here and well KNOW how it feels .. it's all about balancing feelings ... you can do this ... I'm a year on now, and boy what a ride it's been .. but you know I've learned so much, and on here made vertual friends I would have never known ...

Live in the day, weather it's good or bad ... go with it ... hold on to being busy ... your mum should be o.k by the time you need her ... you know I look at this scar there instead of a boob ... and it reminds me just how far I've come, I looked on my mastectomy not loosing a boob, just that they were getting this uninvited guest called cancer, who thought it was o.k to be in my body OUT ... and if that meant l had more time with my granddaughter then it's a small price to pay ... 

So here anytime you want a chat ... Chrissie ... x

Hi millcroft

just wanted t drop by nd say will be with u in spirit for yr results tomorrow... big hugs me dear ️

Everyone deals with a diagnosis differently... for me I decided all the angst in the world wouldn’t change a thing so best look it in the eye nd deal. This way is not for everyone so hope u find your way soon.

I was told 2 very true nd useful things when I was diagnosed - once you get your care plan u feel more settled cos u know what will happen - for me this was true.... hopefully u get yr plan tomorrow. The other was stop thinking ahead... deal with the here and now today...this too was an invaluable pearl of wisdom for me and did indeed help.

Your mind will b racing nd bless the fear of the unknown will b eating away at u.... these thoughts nd feelings are normal. Just know we are here for u if u either want or need us. Take care me dear ... sending hugs ️X

Hiya....i wanted to say hi and send virtual hugs and positive thoughts your way. I have a 9 year old so completely understand not wanting to shatter the happy life they have. We didn't use the word cancer but she guessed it. We just kept it simple. Just a thought....iqf you have a mortgage or pension fund it's worth looking to see if there is a critical illness element. Good luck today hun. You can do this one day at a time xxx

Thank you so much everyone for your replies.  It helps so much.  I went for my results today.  It turns out that the calcifcations that they tested were cancerous which means the cancer is quite extensive - I've been booked in for a masectomy a week on Thursday.  I have to go for an CT scan tomorrow afternoon just to double check everywhere.  I'm afraid I didn't cope at all well today.  I went and sat in the car and cried so so hard.  I'm terrified that they will find something else.  I'm terrified of the op.  I'm terrified of how I'll look afterwards.  In my head I thought that they would do a reconstruction straight away but the consultant said it would be likely that I would need radiotherapy and then possibly chemotherapy before they can do a reconstruction.  I feel awful for being that shallow that I care about how it looks instead of just being glad to be alive.  I'm going to have an early night tonight and face tomorrow in a better way I hope.  AND I feel guilty for coming on here and moaning when I should be helping others too.  Dear oh dear.  Hope everyone is feeling OK today?  Promise to be more chipper next time I post xx

Hi there ...

Guess what ?   We all felt like that on being given the worst news of our life ... I cryed for two days solid .. I wouldn't talk to anyone ... Then when I was all cryed out, I wanted to come back ready for the journey that l found my self on ... Scared didn't come close ... So I came on here and a wonderful lady called Jolomine took me under her wing ... 

It's the thought of the unknown ... Like jumping out of a plane not knowing if the parashoot will open ... But it is doable ... Every one that has answered you felt exactly the same ... And no way you think you should be strong right now ... That grows later like baby steps ... Just take baby steps ...

I remember cournishpastie at first , like us ..and now she's one amazing lass who has just  finished her treatment .... She made it and now is a wonderful carer to others here .... Look on the thread GOOD AND BAD and it's started by Sandra 123. With her journey ... But slowly others joined in just like you ... You'll get a better idea .. you'll see when were scared, when we're waiting for tests and operations ... And treatments after .. and even the humour we find along the way ... 

The time your in now really is the scariest... Most of us found the op wasn't as painful as we imagined .. a couple were home the same day .... You can do this ... I've got a pair of boxing gloves just waiting for you ... Well all be here for as long as you need it ... And later you can help new ones comming on here scared witless ... That's what we all did ... You are stronger then you think .. more hugs ... You can say anything ... Coz we all know cancer sucks big time ... Xx