I was one of the lucky ones, because my prostate cancer was found early. That was back in 2010 when I was 56. I still thank the little voice that urged me to ask for a PSA test!
Your situation is not completely without hope. It might not be curable, but with combinations of hormone therapy and chemotherapy, it can be kept under control for quite a long time. Of course, each person is different so no one can predict precisely how long that might be. It should be long enough to get a lot more enjoyment out of life, particularly if you can stop thinking about tomorrow and concentrate on today instead.
There are always new drugs being developed, too, and no one knows when a game changing therapy will come along. Or your husband could volunteer for some clinical trials and get lucky.
Try to make the best use of the time you have; don't give in to despair, and keep hoping.
In my local area, there is a prostate support (so to speak) group and I'm a member. We meet every two months, discuss what's happening to us, share experiences, and often have a speaker. If there's something in your area, you both might benefit by going along and meeting others in a similar situation.
Personally, I think that telling friends and family should be done as early as possible. I phoned my sister and my friends as soon as I'd walked out of the appointment to receive the news of my diagnosis. I left it to my wife to tell her side of the family, but she also did it quickly. Of course, there's the inevitable shock/horror response, but that is generally only for a short time and things settle back to something like normal. However, the longer you delay, the more difficult it gets, and when you do get round to telling your family and friends, they're going to be even more upset that you didn't tell them earlier.
I'll wish you all the best for now, and I hope you do enjoy your holiday.
Thank you for your response. We heard some things from the health professionals and I did feel that it felt very scripted! Good to hear your experiences and your positive vibes have worked.
one day at a time and make the most of each day.
I agree telling people is key to them supporting you.
There is a prostate cancer support group, in our next county!! But I will look into going when we get home.
Thank you again for sharing your experiences and your supportive message.
