Hello and welcome ishiplarrylmao.  You have come to the right place.  There are several ladies here who have come through breast cancer and are alive and kicking!   I feel sure you will hear from one or more of them.  Of course we understand that you are worried about your mum; any of us would be in your situation but I think you will take heart from others who have been in your mum's situation.  There is information on this website about breast cancer also; I attach a link.  (Hope I don't get into trouble with your family but I always think it is best to know about things; the facts are so often less worrying than what we imagine within ourselves.)  Best wishes to you.  Annie

Hi Becky,

I'm just coming out the other side of a years long treatment for breast cancer, I had the lump removed and then chemo and radiotherapy, I'm still having a drug called Herceptin but not everyone needs that. Yes at times it wasnt very nice and I got so very tired and unfortunatley chemo does mean your hair falls out (unless you have the cold cap). Your mum will need lots of support, so talk to her and help her through this as I think you will cope better knowing whats happening at each stage.

I'm back at work now and doing good, I wish your mum the very best and hope all goes well.

Hi Becky.

I'm sorry to hear about your mum. Im currently mid treatment for breast cancer and have 4 children, 3 are grown and one is 9. As a parent I know I glossed over quite a lot with my kids as I did not want to overburden them. But I made sure to be honest and answer any questions they had if I could. And it may be that you've been told as much as they know at this point so they may not be able to tell you anymore. Or they may think they are protecting you.

I'm sure that your mum would not want to think of you worrying on your own. Have you tried talking to her about it? I would have hated to find out later that any one of my kids was too worried to talk to me and ask for more info.

Everyone will be in shock for a while but this does pass. I don't know if you live with your parents or are away at uni or something else. But mum is going to feel a bit sore and very tired after surgery, so if you are around helping out with household tasks would be a practical way of helping in a situation where you are undoubtedly feeling like a bystander. 

I wanted to give you a little reassurance too....breast cancer treatments have come a long way and women are surviving this every day. There's a whole community of us on here. All my very best to you and your mum. We are all here if you need us x

Hello Becky i have just also found out my mum has breast cancer so i know exactly how you are feeling ...try educating yourself about it here ..read ...its helped me ...i hope your mums operation goes well 

what is mid treatment ? 

Hi Ricky....im part through treatment. I've had surgery, and started on tamoxifen which I will take for 5 years but I'm waiting for radiotherapy to start.

I'm sorry to hear about your mum also Ricky. Always happy to answer any questions if I can. Take care x

Hi annie,

my mum and I spoke last night, she has stage three breast cancer. she said that it means it is fast growing and she is going for her lumpectomy. she will be starting 18 weeks of chemo and then radiotherapy. 

my dad hasn’t said a word to me since my mum got diagnosed. what should i do? 

kind regards, Becky xx

Hi again; so pleased you and your mum have been talking.  Your dad possibly cannot face up to this yet.  Perhaps you should ask your mum about how your dad is coping.  Take her advice - it sometimes takes a while to accept that someone you love dearly is so unwell.    Cancer still strikes fear in many people; but as Cornishpastie has said, breast cancer patients are now getting very good treatment and breast cancer survival rates are now good.  (There are loads of people on this forum who will testify to that.)  I am not saying it will not be difficult at times and your mum will welcome your support and love.  Keep in touch whenever you want and there are loads of people here who will  be able to answer questions about breast cancer treatment.  Annie