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Kitkat47
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Hi 

I had an appointment at the breast clinic yesterday and was told that I have Cancer...they took some biopsies and now it' just the agonising 1 week wait to find out if I have Breast Cancer or Lymphoma...to say the world stopped when he said that are an understatement. 

Looking for a little advice on both...my head went blank and I couldn't think of a single question to ask and my Hubby went grey and almost passed out. 

 

Kind regards 

Kitkat47

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    Hi there kitkat .... Bless ya, we've all been there ... I heard nothing after the word cancer was said ... Glad l had my daughter in law with me, writting everything down ... Always take pen and paper with you and someone to write it down for you ... 

    Once the shock is lessened, you can do this ... It's not easy, it's gonna be a rollercoaster ride ... But cancer wants you to stay in panic mode ... It wants you to give up and cry forever ... Coz that makes it strong ... I had a wonderful daughter in law ... Who said ... No more panicking, no more "what ifs" no looking into the future ... We'll live in the day ... Take every problem as and when it comes up ... And we'll do it together ... We'll i got my positive head on, brought a pair of vertual boxing gloves and got into cancers boxing ring ... And thought ... I can do this ... And blow for blow, I'm still standing almost 10 months after mastectomy ... I've had days where I wanted to cry ... So I did ... Days where I wanted to scream ... I did ... Days when, believe it or not have days when l laugh so much, esp with my granddaughter (pictured) and coz my son and granddaughter see me possitive, it gives them the space to say and hug, and share tears but they are stronger because l am ...

    So let your heart feel all those scary emotions, then get your gloves on ... There's lots of us breast lasses on here ... If you look on [@Sandra123]‍ thread you can see hers and others journey through this ... You can do this ... We'll all help you through .. these lasses are all different stages and treatments ... But together wer strong even when we have wobbles ... Sending you a vertual hug ... Chrisie x

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    Thanks so much for your message Chrisie :) it helps to talk to people who have been where I am now. Thankfully I have a fantastic family including 3 Grandchildren (and another due in July) so they will keep me smiling.

    I'll definitely take a pen and paper next time...I totally forgot to yesterday. I'll write down my questions and get Hubby to write everything down...although he looked worse than me yesterday bless him.

    I'll take a look on the thread you suggested too :) I'm ginger so Hubby says I'll show it whose boss but it will be easier for me to have the support on here too when I have any wobbles.

    Thanks Chrisie :)

     

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    That's the girl ... No one's saying it's a walk in the park ... But we can get cancer on the ropes ... If you look on her thread, called "the good and bad .." . Cos we put what's been good, and bad on this journey... And we talk about lots of stuff ... And any one who posts on there, is made to feel welcome ... But even just reading it, you'll see the ups and downs along this road ... 

    A lovely lady, Jolomine got me through when l first wrote on here, feeling like the new kid in class ... But slowly we came together with new BREAST buddies all the time ... And as they go through their treatment, they will answer new lasses ... I feel so blessed to have found these amazing peeps on here ... I'd never have met them if I never got this cancer ... So I stick two fingers up to it, and say as one of those lasses often says ... I have cancer ... It doesn't have me ... And there's 2or 3 other new lasses ... Poppy is like you, just diagnosed ... And when your home and can't get out much after, comming on here makes those hours fly by ...  Chrisie x

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    I’m a ginger as well, well was before the greys moved im and claimed squatters rights!  We have to stick together!

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    Hi KitKat. Another bc girl here. I'm 48 and had my lumpectomy and sentinal node removal 3 weeks ago. I'm moving on to radiotherapy now and meet the oncologist on Wednesday for the planning. 

    It's a shock when you first find out. I can only speak from my own experience but you do kind of adjust and get on with it. Don't get me wrong it us not a bed of roses but I've learnt to appreciate the simple things.

    If you need us we are here x

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    Thanks Chrisie...I like that saying...I have Cancer...it doesn't have me :)

    New motto I think :)

    Kitkat47

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    Think I pinched that off rilleyroo. . But don't think she'd mind sharing it ... any time, you need chat, vent, or something amusing happens, wer here for it all ... Chrissie

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    Thanks Chrissie I've had a good day today and actually forgot about my diagnosis for a couple of hours while we went to my Daughter's 3D scan...she's due to have our 4th Grandchild (a little boy) in June/July :) I found myself smiling and thinking what a lovely day...and then it smacked me back in the face again but heyho I must not dwell/panic atm because I don't get the staging and treatment plan information until Friday. It does help to have people to speak to...my Hubby has his practical head on and is trying to keep me positive...my girls just want to know what is going to happen when so it's good to just be able to chat about how I feel and not worry about upsetting anyone if you know what I mean :)
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    Hi and welcome.

    Im not a bc girl but a wc!  (Womb cancer}. Although I prefer wc because that’s where it can go. I have my op on 17th :May, eight weeks after first visiting my GP. In those weeks I’ve had my chin on the floor several times but the folk on this website are fantastic. Always willing to listen. All the people who have posted have helped me and are still doing so. They have some very good advice. Family and friends are great but sometimes you just don’t want to worry them. That’s when you can turn to the ladies on here.

    Hope everything goes well at your next appointment. By the way I was like you when I first went to the hospital. Proper rabbit in the headlights after the words biopsy and suspicious were mentioned. I try to take a day at a time but sometimes that is difficult....BUT it can be done.

    Sending another virtual hug from me.

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