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Daisy200
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Hi again, I joined and said hello a week or so ago.

Yesterday I was given my results. Grade 3. oestrogen +ve, HER2 -ve, breast cancer in duct.

Lumpectomy and sentinal node biopsy on 27th December, followed by definitely radio, other treatments still to be decided.

 

Happy effing Christmas xxxxx

 

 

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    Hi Daisy

    Welcome to the club that no-one ever wants to join.

    I can't help you with the specifics of breast cancer - my own cancer was prostate - but I can maybe pass on some things I learned about coping.

    1. Tell your friends and family. The more people you tell, the less it seems like a nasty secret. You will also find plenty of people who've been through it before you. 

    2. Try not to obsessively read the internet, but if you must then AVOID ALL US hospital websites. Given the commercial and private nature of US medicine, most of them are designed to frighten you into getting your treatment there, instead of some equally well provisioned hospital in the same city.  Instead, I suggest you get your information from UK sites only. 

    3. Expect to get worried from time to time. It's only natural, but try to limit those times to a few minutes a day.  I found this video really helpful when things got too much for me: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6eFFCi12v8

    4. Find things to do to keep busy and keep your mind occupied. Learn an instrument or a new language, or join an am-dram society.  

    5. Remember that cancer is only a word, not a sentence! 

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    Thank you.

     

    I've been here before, kidney cancer 17 years ago. Still, at least it will take my mind of off my impending divorce and the fact that the man I left for turns out to be a bit of a ***** in his own right.

     

    Onwards and upwards. x

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    Hi Daisy. Sorry to hear of your diagnosis. I myself was going thru this last year. I had biopsy dec 23 and results on dec 28. Then the journey began. Yes I agree its effing xmas but at least they've caught it. It's gonna be a tough rollercoaster ride but you will come out the other end. The crap you get told like "stay atrong", "stay positive" - well that's not what i was like. Go with the flow and cry if you need to. I hope it goes as well as can be and keep chatting. This forum has been my saviour and ask for help to make it easier for you. Tackle one day at a time and one step at a time focussing on the outcome. Keep us posted.
  • Offline in reply to Daisy200

    Hence my bummer comment.

    Some years seem especially cr@ppy for us all  - 2017 seems to be yours. I hope 2018 is better for us all. :-)

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    Hi 

    I was diagnosed last Friday 

    stage 1 invasive ductal  breast cancer er positive found on mammogram 

    got op next fri. 

    I don't know if this is good or bad. 

    Feel bloody scared as my mum died of breast cancer 30 years ago  at the age of 46. 

    I'm nearly 50 

    hope you are ok 

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    I had stage 2 invasive, lumpectomy and lymph node removal in August. Started Tamoxifen in September, Radiotherapy in October. Now discharged from oncology. 

    The surgery side was very straightforward. A lot of hanging around but all done in a day. Went to theatre about 1-30, went in around two and was up and dressed on the ward by 4-30. Home with a cuppa by 7-30. 

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    Are you ok now? 

    No chemo? 

    Lymph nodes ok? 

  • Offline in reply to Whistable

    No chemo, lymph nodes were clear. Guess it might have been different if they weren’t clear. Had radio, still tired from that but I’ve gone back to work on a phased return. Got to say I’m  ready for the Christmas break. 

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    Try to focus on just the op for the moment. I know it's hard and really scary but one step at a time. Just remember each part of this journey is bringing you closer to recovery. Try to keep busy and think of only that day - not tomorrow or the day after. It'll all go quickly and you'll look back and think how far you've come. Dr's aren't allowed to give guarantees or the all clear so I don't dwell on that. One day at a time and onwards and upwards.

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