well to dying in 3 weeks flat...

My partner just got diagnosed with very aggressive glioblastoma. He was driving a few weeks ago and generally very well, he started talking all mixed up and we thought he had a stroke and before you know it i'm being told there's nothing that can be done.

 

We were hoping to do some things together. But last night his legs gave way when he got up to go to the toilet and they haven't worked since. He's now in hospital and can't even turn himself over in bed. This has all happened so quick in the space of a week and i'm so lost.

 

Today we were meant to be going out, he wanted to speak to a few friends, and he wanted to buy me a ring. We've only been together less than 18 months. But now we can't and he's going downhill so fast.

 

He wants to come home but the hospital want to run more tests. And we don't have any equipment or anything here to look after him. I don't even know if he'll get to come home or if he'll even still be there when i go back to the hospital in the morning. I have a 9 year old daughter too and no family at all locally. I can't cope and don't know what to do...

  • Oh Donna, I’m so so sorry , life sure is cruel .... I wish I could find any words that would help ... but you’ve found the right place to put down just how your feeling, and your not on your own, there’s so many of us either lost or loosing someone or like me going through a cancer ... we may not be able to make it feel better, but we can hold your hand and be a shoulder when you need it ... 

    try to hold on for your baby, she will need you and you her ... we all say how we get emotions of anger, feeling helpless, why’s, and it’s all normal... the only difference is most of us get time to get used to those feelings, over time ... you can phone here or McMillan free phone number and they may be able to offer some help ... my thoughts are with you, sending you a huge hug, chrisie ️ Xx

  • Thanks for your message. 

     

    Been to hospital this morning and he actually seems a bit brighter - he's having high doses of steroids to try and reduce swelling in the brain and it seems to be working a little. Been pushing the hospital to try and get him home quickly, all he wants to do is be at home, he knows he is dying and we just want to be together.  

  • Hi Donna ... hope you get him home ... will be thinking of you all ...remember wer always here .... sending you all a big hug Chrisie xx

  • My partner died this morning in the hospice. His illness was short and brutal.

    No words...

  • Hi Donna, 

    I just saw your post and wanted to offer you my heartfelt condolences on the passing of your partner.

    I can't begin to imagine how difficult this must be for you right now but I just want you to know that we are here for you and will do what we can to support you through this difficult time.

    Kind regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Oh Donna  ... no words can express how I feel right now ... I hope you have someone close to help you ...my heart and thoughts are with you ... always here if ever you need to talk ... take care chrisie xx