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My hubby has throat cancer

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Hi, 

On Thursday 27/04/17 my hubby and I had the rug pulled from under us when he was told that he had metastatic cancer in the lymph nodes of his neck. 

I'd noticed a slight swelling on the side of his neck back in January but as he had man flu at the time we put it down to a swollen gland, over the next few months it just kept getting bigger but I couldn't convince him to go to the doc (the big feerty), others started noticing the lump which was now about the size of an egg so he gave in and saw the doc who then sent of a request for an ultrasound biopsy. He had the biopsy on the 3rd of March and we put it to the back if our minds. On April 10thi was at the GP and just happened to ask if the biopsy results for Paul had came back, nope, no results, but about 10days later an appointment came through for him to attend the ENT clinic at our local hospital on 27th April, we went into the appointment on the premise that "no news is good news" boy were we wrong. My hubby has throat cancer that's spread to his lymph nodes, he's going in on Wednesday morning to have exploratory surgery to look for the primary site of the cancer, he'll also have a scan to check to see if its travelled elsewhere. It'll then take a week or so for the doc to gather all the relevant info and make a plan. 

Sorry for the long winded explanation but I think putting it all down on paper (virtual) has actually helped me. 

Gailx

 

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    Hi Gail,

    I am so sorry to hear about your husband. I presume that he is about the same age as you? The diagnosis of cancer hits most of us like a runaway train and time seems to really drag whilst we await the results of tests, and then wait for treatment to start.

    Once treatment starts we gradually come to accept it and somehow or other we feel better because we are actually doing something to try and prevent it from taking over our lives. It is always a scary time waiting for surgery. Time tends to drag. Try to keep yourselves busy with more pleasant things to help take your mind off what is happening – I know, you just cannot put it to the back of your minds, but keeping busy might help to pass the time a little quicker.

    A cancer diagnosis affects all the family. Have you told your children yet and how have they reacted?

    Many people find it cathartic to write down how they feel and you will find that there is good support on this site. Do let us know how the surgery goes, and I trust that the scan won’t find any more metastases.

    All this must be particularly difficult for you. You will find that you have to be the strong one, both for your husband and for the children.

    I pray that God gives you the strength you need.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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    Hi Gail,

    I am so sorry to hear about your husband. I presume that he is about the same age as you? The diagnosis of cancer hits most of us like a runaway train and time seems to really drag whilst we await the results of tests, and then wait for treatment to start.

    Once treatment starts we gradually come to accept it and somehow or other we feel better because we are actually doing something to try and prevent it from taking over our lives. It is always a scary time waiting for surgery. Time tends to drag. Try to keep yourselves busy with more pleasant things to help take your mind off what is happening – I know, you just cannot put it to the back of your minds, but keeping busy might help to pass the time a little quicker.

    A cancer diagnosis affects all the family. Have you told your children yet and how have they reacted?

    Many people find it cathartic to write down how they feel and you will find that there is good support on this site. Do let us know how the surgery goes, and I trust that the scan won’t find any more metastases.

    All this must be particularly difficult for you. You will find that you have to be the strong one, both for your husband and for the children.

    I pray that God gives you the strength you need.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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