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just diagnosed a few hours ago.my beautiful weans...

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im a single father for a long time..,my oldest wee boy just turned 11 last week..his mother ran off when he was four and never came back..6 years ago i met a long long lost love and we settled down into a beautiful and happy life, we knew that we would be together forever so we planned and had another beautiful baby....unfortunately, my beautiful fiancee was diagnosed with A.L.L. a terrible type of leukemia..my princess was 42.. after 18 mths and gruelling sessions of chemo after 2 years She left us....SO....over the past year or so i had'nt been feeling to well...over the past few months i've had an ultrasound, then a c.a.t. scan, then when i went to the Mater hospital in belfast today for a consultation...i've found out that i have to have a Whipples procedure....i am so worried about my weans..a ten year old and a five year old....my heart is breaking for them...CAN ANYONE PLEASE OFFER SOME ADVICE......?XO may God bless you all.xo

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    Hello , I'm so sorry to hear your news. My heart goes out to you. I have just been diagnosed with breast cancer and also have 2 young children. The fear for them is overwhelming. More fear for them than for me. I am also a nurse who looks after patients who have a Whipple's procedure. I know its scary but these patients do recover well and the procedure can be curative. I'm not minimising what you face but please stay positive. You can do this. If you have friends and family you will need them to support you. Also be honest with your children, keep them informed so they dint get too anxious. Please try and get your mind into a fighting positive state. You are here today, tomorrow and for many more to come. That's all we have. Enjoy each day and your children.
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    thanks for your positive comment..it means a lot..my boys r so class..the weans have been through so much over the past few years..ive tried so hard to be a daddy, and a mammy for them and now ive found out that i'm not well...pure heartbreaking....#devastated......thanks for answering....your beautiful.xo
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    After a sleepless night ive just woken up not long ago, and for a few seconds i was my normal happy person, then i remembered...what a terrible feeling to have...i worry so much about my children:(:(:(:(

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    Hello docmano, so, so sorry for your situation, especially after all you and your boys have been through already.  I would just like to say that I hope you take Ladala's brilliant advice and take courage from what she has said - you are right, she must be a beautiful person, and I wish her all she has wished for you.  

    God bless, Hazel xx

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    Hello again. I know that sinking feeling when you first wake up. Its the hardest time for me. Try and think of 5 things that you are blessed with. Get up and get sorted. Always remember that all of us only have today. Fear and worry for the future robs you if potential enjoyment for today. My thoughts are with you.

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