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Annoyed, angry, prepared but not really prepared

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Hi

 

im new here. My partner of 18 years has gone from a normal life 2 weeks ago, to be diagnosed as terminally ill with weeks to live. I'm 36 with 2 kids, youngest 11, a grandchild on the way and I just don't know what to think. I'm in autopilot but when I allow myself to forward think, I crumble. I never ask for help and I've always just "got on" with life's hardships but I'm angry and I never imagined life without him, as much as he annoys me!!!!! I'm racked with guilt for lots of reasons. He's not fully aware of what he has or he's in denial. Due to get him home before the weekend and I know things will be tough but as he watched his own father die when he was young, he always said he doesn't want the same for his own son....... I just don't know what to expect and need to get this right!!! 

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    Hi Ab. I had same experience last December weekbefore Christmas. Hubby taken into hospital with urinary problems died three weeks later. I think the shock carried me through it. Afterwards was hard when it all started to come back to me. Don't have regrets we all say and do things during a relationship when we annoyed etc. That's just life. Focus on your hubby tell him how you feel about him. Hold him kiss him. Be there at the end. That will carry you through. You also have a young child so you will need to focus on him too. Get as much support as you can. Take care and warmest wishes to you all. WA

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    Same here hun

    my 42 yr old partner went gp 6 months ago for weight loss and unable swallow food then drink. After numerous scans and biopsies they told us it wasn't cancer and diagnosed him with achalasia and that he needed a simple operation. Well that was a misdiagnosed case of stomach cancer T4. So f@^** angry this wasn't picked up sooner! Told him been there poss 12 months yet failed to spot it!!! We have two boys aged 8 & 9 and had the unfortunate moment of having to tel them daddy not well. 

    Stay in touch xx 

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