hi my 85 year old mum has been in hospital 5 weeks now , they done lots of tests and told us on the 23rd dec she had throat cancer .

she cant keep solid food down and can manage a little soup , she could not swollow her tablets yesterday , and now weighes 4 stone 10

they had the md (or wot ever its called ) yesterday , and the cancer nurse phoned me last night to tell me it had spread slightly to near her kidney and her pancreas , she then basicly told me they want to fit a stent , if she doesnt have the stent she may only live around 3 months and gradually starve to death  if she has the op thats with risks it may be a extra 3 months or so.

has anyones elderly parents or family had this opperation as herd its a long op and wasnt the best afterwards, i live a 120 miles from my mum , which i had to travel back home yesterday before the meeting , 

iv never felt so alone and scared , please any advice would be greatly received 

thank you xx