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Both my Dad and Aunty have lung cancer

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Hi, 

so as most of these go, I'm not too sure why I'm writing this on here. I'm hoping that it will make me feel better, and others that are going through a similar thing might be able to help me out.

So last summer I found out that my Aunty has stage 4 lung cancer. At the time, I thought my world was breaking apart. I was angry, so angry at the fact she was in pain. She didn't smoke, rarely drank. It just wasn't fair. Not really knowing much about cancer and thinking the worst, I didn't cope well. I felt like in a way, I'd been given her death sentence and left to just deal with that. Throughout the year there has been ups and downs, but the positive is in a year, her tumors have shrunk to almost a nothingness which feels like the best thing in the world.

Then yesterday it felt like lightning truly struck me twice. I got a phone call from my dad telling me he's got lung cancer too. Let's just leave it as, i really didn't take it very well. I'm struggling to accept the fact it's happened again. In some ways, with my experience with my Aunty, you could say I'm well prepared. But right now the anger keeps building and the tears don't stop coming at random moments. My dad is one of the most important people in my life, and being told he's been given 5 years to live has broken me. I can't live without my dad, not now, not ever, not in five years time!! I know that's selfish, but right now, that's how I feel.

So I guess that's it. 

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    I know how you feel my dads just been diagnosed with the same but only given 2-4. Months to live I lost my mum in February too I'm so distraught it was bad enough one parent but now it's gonna be both 

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    It is such a horrible thing, and as you will know, so difficult to deal with. At the moment I'm throwing myself into work and trying not to think about it, but then I feel guilty that I'm not thinking about it and it just goes round and round in circles. I'm so sorry to hear your story, it's times like these that remind me how cruel and unfair life can be. 

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    I am so sorry to hear about your aunt and your dad being diagnosed with lung cancer. It must be a very difficult time for you right now. My dad was just diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer and we don't really know how long he has left. The doctor said my dad may have 3 years. Is there anyone you are able to talk to about this? Other family members or friends you are able to talk to? I have found it easier over this past month to talk to people about what i'm going through. I do tend to keep emotions to myself, but I think news like this is something that we need to talk about with others. I am sending my thoughts your way and I hope that you are able to feel a little more at peace.

    i'm also struggling to come to terms with the fact about my dad. I don't cry so much anymore, but sometimes it comes unexpectedly. I also can probabaly relate to the anger that you're feeling. I feel so angry that his cancer wasn't caught in time, with prostate cancer he could have had a 95-99% survival rate after 5 years (from what I've read on different websites), Life can be extremely unfair at times, and I think this is one fo those times that it's toally fine to feel all the anger you can feel. I'm hoping I can come to terms with this and be at peace, but like you, it is very hard. I just wanted you to know that you're not alone in your feelings. 

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