Lads I’m literally losing me mind here drinking morning to night pls help however u can xxxxxx life is a train wreck 

Ladyseaforth

If you really want to help your dad finish your studies at uni, that willl lift your dads spirits. You are not being a bad daughter for getting on with your life. But your dad would be saddened to know you are wasting your life drinking. If you must drink make a rule to wait till your evening meal for the first. Drink solves no problems and usually makes life a lot worse. Living with Incurable cancer can mean many more years of life. So visit your dad when you are able and dont feel guilty. He will cope just fine. 

Ed

Hi Ladyseaforth, 

I just came across your post and wanted to let you know how sorry I am to hear about your dad's prostate cancer.

This must be a very difficult time, especially with you being away from home, but we are here for you Ladyseaforth and hopefully some of our members who have been diagnosed with prostate cancer will stop by soon to share their experiences and offer their support and advice.

Waiting for news can be very tough but I hope this guidance we have on how to cope with the wait will help to steady your nerves, and your mind, until you know more.

You're also very welcome to talk to our team of cancer nurses on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They are very insightful and will be more than happy to answer any questions you have about your dad's diagnosis and support you whilst you wait.

I noticed that you mentioned that you are drinking heavily at the moment to help you cope. I know this situation must be incredibly difficult but if you're relying on alcohol to help you through the day, it may be time to reach out to your family, friends or GP for support. You've done incredibly well by telling us about this, but do speak to your loved ones about how you are feeling as I'm sure they will not want you to be struggling with this all by yourself and will want to do all they can to help you.

If you feel that isn't an option at the moment there are many helplines and listening services you can reach out to for further support and advice and at those times of day, or night, when no-one is around you can message SHOUT on 85258 or call the Samaritans on 116 123. They are both available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and are there to help anyone who is struggling or in need of support.

When you can, do try speaking to someone at your university about what is going on so they can provide you with further support and advice as well.

We are sending you all our strength and support your way Ladyseaforth, and I hope I've been able to reassure you that you are not alone at this time. 

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Thank you Ed so much for your message 

my parents have made it very clear that they want to me to continue with my postgrad with no issue regarding the recent news. I am trying my best but I can’t help but feel sick and distracted at the thought of not being by my dad’s side. 
unfortunately, drinking is a trait my dad and I share - he has been drinking since he found out his official diagnosis today - it’s all a bit of mess.

I am keeping the statistics of living in mind - it’s just all been such a shock. My dad feels so young and I feel like such a child. I love him so much. 

thank you for your comments Ed xxxxx